37 mum of two, unexpected third pregnancy

[Nik84]

I’ve just found out I’m pregnant with my third. I have 2 daughters, 7 and 9 and I’m 37. I’m in shock at the moment and feeling utterly overwhelmed and very worried. Has anyone been in a similar position and can give me some positives 😭

I was pregnant with my 3rd when my eldest was 18 and my youngest was 4. It wasn't a complete surprise but happened very quickly, there were definite moments of "What the heck have I done?!" Fast-forward 10 years and I have 3 lovely DCs and I love my life. They bring me joy every day. Your DCs age gap won't be that big, I bet they'd love to have a baby sibling.

Give yourself time to get over the shock, it's understandable especially if the pregnancy wasn't planned. Do you have support?

Hi Nic, I understand what you are going through. I am almost 37 and have a 16 year old and a 9 year old. I found out I was pregnant in November and it was a huge shock. I cried like someone had died!! I have now come to terms with it and have had my 12 week scan and we’ve told the children. They were shocked as they thought I was joking!! They are ok about it though and dealt with it a lot better than I thought they would.

Take your time getting used to it. Take every day as it comes. Communicate with your husband. Look after yourself. These things helped me get used to the idea and i feel very lucky and happy with the idea now.

I feel a bit worried about being more tired with this baby as I am quite a lot older then i was with the other two. I am just trying to be mindful to not get anxious about things and to enjoy it all.

Good luck. Am here if you would like to PM me.

Xx

Hi this happened to me last year! I have 2 children and thought we were finished and found myself pregnant last year at 38. I had very mixed emotions about it for a long time...and well she's 6 months now and I couldn't be without her ♥ You will be okay

I’m bawling my eyes out reading your kind, reassuring replies. Thankyou so much. How are you finding this pregnancy @BabyBorn? Was pregnancy and labour different to when you had babies at a younger age @Clairelucyr? My head is spinning with all the ‘what ifs’ and negatives. I’ll take your advice and give myself time, I’m lucky that I have support and my husband seems happy with the news, although a bit nervous!

My pregnancy was fine and the birth was by far the easiest and quickest of the three!! Overall it has been easier than I had imagined , the only times I've struggled is when the baby isn't sleeping. Lots of people have babies in their late 30s/early 40s these days but I understand how you feel as you thought you were finished. I'm sure your children will love it- mine have taken to the baby really well luckily.

This pregnancy has been better so far than when I was pregnant with my two girls! All nausea disappeared after two weeks and I have felt fantastic! Still plenty of time yet to change 😂😬

That is great that your husband seems happy and is being supportive!

You will come to terms with it don’t worry. How far a long are you? X

Congratulations! I would say just take your time to process it. We had 3 girls and thought we were done (I'm 41) and then a surprise pregnancy this September- I felt sick and did NOT want to do the test because it felt familiar and I was so scared.

Now I'm 17 weeks and we've told the children (10,6 and 1) and they are all so excited (well, the older two who understand!)
Every stage took me ages, we didn't tell anyone till 14 weeks. I just needed time to process it. I have to say having 3 was lovely and I wouldn't be too worried if I were you, going from 2-3 was our easiest transition (despite COVID).

Good luck, I reckon all will be fine! ♥️

That’s good to hear @Clairelucyr I am getting hung up on my age, but you’re right , lots of women choose to have babies at this age. @BabyBorn I think I’m around 6.5 weeks, so very early stages. Thanks for sharing your positive experience @headspin10, it took me 2 weeks to test, I was terrified! Although I did know deep down so didn’t drink over Christmas.

36 here and have 3ds 17, 8 &5. Really thought I was done! Found out I was pregnant in the summer and what a shock it was! Could not get my head around the idea for so long. Think even my 20week scan I hadn’t processed it properly! Now 35 weeks and have finally got my head around it. This time it’s a girl as well! I never thought I would have one! It does take time to get used to the idea of doing it all again but you will get there.

@Nik84 you will be totally fine. Makes it so much easier that your body has done it all before.

@Whattodonowadays I bet it was a shock too! My DD1 is 17 mid February too and the age gaps will be crazy. It’s actually the first thing our DD2 pointed out when we told her 🙈😂