Third girl...surprise...positivity needed

[GirlyGalore]

Hi, I am desperately looking for some POSITIVITY from those who have been there and done it...because I'm not finding much within myself or from friends/family.
I'm 25wks pregnant with my 3rd (all girls) and I'm struggling to feel excited, which saddens me. Hubbie and I had been on the fence about having 3 for quite a while and we hadn't decided when we were careless and I fell pregnant. Previous 2 pregnancies were planned and I adore our two girls although they are currently hard work toddlers (15month gap)
I feel out of control with this pregnancy and have buried my head in the sand about it & don't often discuss it. Our girls will only be 3.5 and 2.25 when baby is due and hubbie is now working overseas until due date then again until baby will be 8months old.
I'd really love to hear some positive experiences of:

• Coping with 3 x three and under
• How having 3 girls is awesome (In truth I was hoping for a boy this time)
• That we aren't totally reckless and environmentally selfish to be having a third child, which is the impression some family have given us.

Wow! You guys are truly wonderful - a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for your supportive comments. I wish I'd voiced my feelings earlier but have never posted before so didn't know what to expect. I'm already starting to feel more positive about our situation - and luckily have plenty of time to continue down that road...I will re-read your comments many times. Big love 💗

I have 3 sisters and love it.

We have grown closer as we have got older and it's like having support for life! Even if our main communication method atm is just sending each other ridiculous memes (we all now have our own children under 3) who ironically are all boys! X

3 girls is a dream! I would have loved 3 girls! In reality I got one of each and wouldn't have it any other way now. Because that's what happens - you meet the actual little person and you fall in love with exactly who and what they are. Fast forward a year and you won't be able to imagine your little family any other way. Congratulations!

We have 3 girls too, I expected a boy third time (?!?) and I think I understand how you feel. I did really want a boy (but why??)

Our youngest is now 20 months and she is utterly adorable!! Her sisters are besotted and we absolutely could not imagine it any other way. It will all fall into place. This little baby is the right one for you and your family and it'll all be ok in the end.

Is there any way you could get a trainee nanny to help I know someone who had this. Free but you have to be in the house all the time (as you would be!) Good luck ♥️

@MerryBumpmas
I think it's great you mention this gender disappointment. I struggled so much with this with my 3rd (3 girls). Much like you describe.

However, over time I have realised that older women around me sometimes / often seem to get the gender they desired in their grandchildren and can be incredibly close then. Maybe you will one day have a granddaughter who fills that role.

(I know there are all sorts of things wrong with gender disappointment but it's often complex and a feeling, therefore not in our control so I feel we need to try to be understanding. Though I do appreciate it can seem very ungrateful too😰).

DB has three girls and while they are all lovely, their 3rd is the sweetest, funniest and kindest of the lot. She's just one of those DC who gets on with everyone - girls and boys alike - and is liked by everyone she meets. Three close together will be busy and full-on for a while, but actually I think if you're going to have three it's best to have small gaps so you're not in the trenches with babies and toddlers for 10 years. Congratulations

I just wanted to pop back on and say that our darling baby Skye is now 6 months old and we couldn't be more in love with her or with having 3 gorgeous girls - so thank you for all your positivity when I really needed it...you were so right! 🙌

I have 3 boys. My eldest 8, younger two are 22 months and 6 months.
I desperately wanted a girl, so I know how you feel. I absolutely adore my youngest boy. He had such a different personality to my other two. He's very sweet and I couldn't imagine my life without him.
Two under 2 is blooming hard work. I don't think I cope well, I take it hour by hour and ask for help from my family. My toddler is very full.
Having 3 children is lovely, it's hard going but you'll survive to tell the tale and you'll have 3 beautiful girls ☺️

Brilliant! Thanks for the update, that's lovely to hear @GirlyGalore. Love her name!

I had 3 girls with the same age gaps as you (had an older one too) honestly hard work but awesome 💕

They are very different characters but love one another and help each other when the chips are down.

I was appreciative that I had 4DC all the same sex - slightly less to get my head around than if the opposite sex had been thrown in.

You can "girls" rather than "children" or rattle of individual names.

At school my bff had 4 dsis's. All had immaculate plaits every day. No idea what the hell time their dm had to be up every morning!

Yay, congrats OP! I'm one of four sisters and it's fab. Thanks for updating 🙂

I don’t have personal experience of this but two of my friends have 3 and 4 daughters respectively and the bond between the sisters is so gorgeous!

My friends also love being mothers of so many daughters and as an aunty I’ve had so much fun getting to know them as individuals and seeing how different their personalities are .

As someone who had no sisters growing up I’d have loved being one of 3 girls!

I’m pregnant with my first so I can’t comment from personal experience as a mother, but I’m the youngest of 4 - oldest was a boy then 3 girls and everything is just dandy! My sisters and I are great pals in adulthood.

I specifically wanted to comment about that family that told you it’s environmentally reckless or whatever - literally the stupidest argument in the world. If my DH and I are financially and physically capable we want to have 8 (a little army or orchestra or something!). My sister just had her second but with her first honestly she was buying enough stuff for 4 kids. IMO multiple kids is as “environmentally friendly” or “reckless” as you make it.

There is a certain level of environmental impact of a new human that doesn’t change; but especially with you having all girls, there is opportunity for hand me downs and all that stuff. That’s what my DH and I plan to do, loads of hand me downs and 2nd hand stuff from family (and there’s an awesome 2nd hand baby shop near us).

And if they’re talking about overall future adult population: overpopulation is a myth, and the average age of humanity is getting older and older… if people don’t start having kids now we won’t have enough people to keep going in terms of innovation etc. people don’t know what they’re on about and buy into scaremongering and anti-natalist arguments without even realising it. And then parroting it out to a pregnant woman is so insensitive and out of order.

I wish you a beautiful pregnancy and I’m sure your three girls are going to get along famously and everything will be absolutely fine 🥰

P.S. I just realised how old this thread was!!! I only read the OP and then commented. So sorry to pull it out of the archive, but I’m so glad you’re loving life with 3! Much love to you and your family 🥰