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Am I stupid for feeling this way

9 replies

jodisuara · 27/12/2021 16:26

It's my due date today with my first child.. my partner decided to go out this morning to see his friends and he still hasn't come home. I had my bloody show last night and I just feel like it doesn't matter how I feel or that I spend most of the time on my own, I just don't feel important. On my dads passing anniversary he had gone fishing and didn't come home until late, also on my dads birthday he pissed off out and I didn't see him until late. I just feel like every important date that means something he's never anywhere to be seen. We live together and have been with each other for 7 and a half years. Even when it comes to little things like me asking for a massage whilst my ankles are swollen and I ache everywhere I never get one. Or I get given one that's shit or too hard so I'll ask him to stop. I keep feeling like I'm just not worth it

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SuperSleepyBaby · 27/12/2021 16:32

Sorry, he should be making a huge effort at important times like this to look after you.

Does he have any good points?

waitingforlifeonmars · 27/12/2021 16:36

So sorry. He is being a bit of a shit if you ask me, and sounds completely selfish or really doesn't understand how hard pregnancy can affect you. If you are feeling on your own perhaps you should try to do something with a good friend/relative.
You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel and also lay some ground work down for when the baby arrives, he needs to understand that it is both your lives that will change with arrival of baby and not just yours.

Good luck.

Holskey · 27/12/2021 16:37

Yeah, I need to hear about his redeeming features because right now I'm just imagining a selfish arsehole who doesn't deserve a partner and a baby!

Somerandomgirl · 27/12/2021 16:49

Some men just dont know how to deal with women emotions so they disappear.. if he's otherwise ok person?

Genevie82 · 27/12/2021 17:04

Op brace yourself as the avoidance is only going to get worse once you have a child together !!! Time to tell him your expectations about roles very clearly or you are going to be one very resentful mamma. Wait for the super long toilet trips with his phone at crucial times 🤣

MadeForThis · 27/12/2021 17:08

If he can't be there for you now he will be a nightmare when you have a newborn.

Time for an important talk.

Could his mother/sister speak to him and help him realise that life isn't all about him anymore.

girlmom21 · 27/12/2021 17:17

Call him and tell him he needs to sort his priorities out right now. In a few days he's going to be a father and he needs to decide right now whether he's in or he's out.

If he can't step up he can fuck off.

Sorry you're having to deal with this OP.

Wickywoo1984 · 27/12/2021 17:44

Sorry it doesn't bode that well for fatherhood. You and your baby should be his priority right now. Is he at the pub? What if you go into Labour, he'll be useless.

Suprima · 27/12/2021 17:45

Did he do nice things for you before you were pregnant?

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