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Partners and sex during pregnancy...

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Bella1329 · 22/12/2021 19:28

I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant and curious to get quick experiences and opinions!

Were your husbands, partners etc. uncomfortable with having sex while you were pregnant or did everything carry on as usual?

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Wifflywafflywoo · 22/12/2021 20:09

Mine was at first because we've had a previous loss then IVF then I had OHSS so he's been treating me like glass for months. First time I tried it on with him he just couldn't do it, second time ended in unstoppable laughing because I'm just such a different shape now then third time lucky we utilised the pregnancy pillow and it was great!! How is your OH finding it?

bollocksthemess · 22/12/2021 21:03

I didn’t feel like it at first as I was so nervous about miscarrying. About week 9/10 it picked up again, we last DTD week 16/17 then he went away for a bit and when he came back I’d massively expanded (twins) and we haven’t bothered since, I’m 25 weeks. I feel like a whale and don’t recognise myself, plus I’ve got lovely hip and pelvis pain and I walk like a duck. E’ll just pick it up again when they’re evicted.

Morechocmorechoc · 22/12/2021 21:06

Business as usual!

sociallydistained · 22/12/2021 21:07

He is happy as Larry with it. Me at 35 weeks not so much. Honestly feel like I'm done 😩

VanLife · 22/12/2021 21:07

Business as usual!

Whatelsecouldibecalled · 22/12/2021 21:10

We had ivf. He was very very cautious. We tried a few times but neither of us into it much so then didn't bother

RedRobin100 · 22/12/2021 21:12

Business as usual.

When I have the energy..!

Watto1 · 22/12/2021 21:12

It was business as usual until one Sunday afternoon…

I was sitting (well, slumping) on the sofa whilst wearing a fairly thin t-shirt. Dd did a massive somersault and my whole belly rippled like crazy. Dh looked totally shocked and didn’t come near me for anything more than a cuddle after that! I think that moment was when he realised that I had another human being on board.

RisingStarsToday · 22/12/2021 21:59

IVF pregnancy here and no plans for sex during the pregnancy!!! Too nervous to risk it.

shas19 · 22/12/2021 23:22

Had sex all the way through, currently 36 weeks and have dtd 4 days in a row😂

babyjenks93 · 22/12/2021 23:25

He was fine and everything as usual until he could see and feel my belly moving like crazy. Now he's freaked out as he has realised his daughter, an actual human baby, is in there. I don't think I will bring him to change his mind Hmm

Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese · 22/12/2021 23:28

Was business as usual until about week 35 when ds decided to kick and punch me while we were in the middle of dtd. He hit me that hard dh felt it, like a pp, I think it was that moment he realised there was actually another human there and it gave him the heebeegeebees 🤣

cfarrugia · 23/12/2021 03:25

36 weeks today - and nothing has changed. every couple of days, abit harder to move around and look sexy with a big belly :)

Dextersmumhasgotitgoingon · 23/12/2021 06:07

We have maybe done it 4 times throughout the pregnancy (38 weeks now) because I'm too worried and uncomfortable. We did it last week and the pressure down there was so uncomfortable that I ended up in tears. I think there's too much blood in the area. We're both looking forward to the doctors all clear once she's born!

Magenta82 · 23/12/2021 06:20

Pretty much every day throughout, however I had a bleed in the morning at 37+2 so the baby came the next day. It was probably the timing tbh, had probably been bleeding during the night/early morning and just noticed it during the sex. But it was pretty traumatic, there was quite a bit.

PanettoneSeason · 23/12/2021 06:28

Very high rate of pregnancy loss in my side of the family which DH and I had obviously discussed for years prior to TTC. As soon as we found out I was pregnant, that was it - sex was off the table. It wasn’t a precaution that we had discussed taking but just seemed to be the way we both went.
I was absolutely fine with that. But then we didn’t have sex until 6months PP 😬 and now DC is 14months and we’ve had sex 3 times 😬

Normal for us pre-TTC would have been maybe 3x per week on average so considering it’s now been 3x in almost 2 years things are feeling a bit different 😓 We had a contact sleeper until DC was 9months old, and I was BF so when DC wasn’t attached to me I just really didn’t want to be touched most of the time (as awful as that sounds to admit!) and I know DH is still pretty traumatised from witnessing the birth (a few complications and lots of blood loss). I know we need to have a conversation about it but I keep putting it off 😓

maa32 · 23/12/2021 06:42

Uncomfortable for the first 12 weeks due to IVF pregnancy. More on my part, I was so scared of something going wrong again.

Second pregnancy was following a loss so we didn't do anything penetration wise first 12 weeks, some foreplay but there was a lingering fear but this time more on DH part.

As the pregnancy progressed we were back to normal-ish. I carried big and was in a lot of pain so again, limited but if I would have been comfortable DH wouldn't of been put off by me being pregnant

Sleepyquest · 23/12/2021 06:45

A little freaked out by it and I'm uncomfortable too. But we have been occasionally. I would suggest you give it a go because you may not want to post partum for a while, so could go a year without!

timeisnotaline · 23/12/2021 06:47

My bump feels pretty big at 31 weeks now so logistically it is challenging, we are trying roughly every week or two but it’s not actually working half the time. I’m intrigued by those doing it regularly - physically how? @Magenta82 @cfarrugia sorry if tim it it feels too hard on my pelvis to be on all fours, can’t lie on my back, never really managed while spooning, are we just really bad at it? Blush

Sailor2009 · 23/12/2021 08:01

My sex drive went mad for the first 6 months so pretty much everyday. Dropped off a bit for the last few months but still 2/3 times a week. I did say that if he didn't want to I would understand but he wasn't freaked out by it. Even when he clearly saw a foot pushing out of my side. To be honest I think he was glad of the months rest once I gave birth.

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Bella1329 · 23/12/2021 08:23

Thanks everyone, my DP has taken it off the table completely, he feels really uncomfortable about it and it really freaks him out. I don't think he'd be able to do it even if we gave it a go if you get my drift, bless him!

I've already got one son from a previous relationship so when I made the comment that we wouldn't be doing it for a good month or 6 weeks at least after the baby arrives, he did seem to budge a bit, but not enough to give it a try 🤣

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roarfeckingroarr · 23/12/2021 08:28

My ex fiancé went off me sexually as soon as I was visibly pregnant. It never came back, I felt horribly rejected for months both pregnant and post partum and we split when DS was 9 months. Best thing that ever happened to me, DS is doing so so well and I have a gorgeous new partner who respects that my child comes first.

cfarrugia · 23/12/2021 11:17

@timeisnotaline i think maybe because have had regular sex through out my body may be used to it. also laying on side is most comfortable for me, make him do all the work and you do what is best and easiest for you!

cultkid · 23/12/2021 11:19

Carried on as normal all three pregnancies every few days we have sex

timeisnotaline · 23/12/2021 11:21

@cfarrugia we don’t seem to have much luck getting it in on our sides! Seriously, it seems like a really common position and we can’t seem to make it work Blush I don’t know if we just suck or it’s some kind of proportion thing (nothing weird about our proportions though). We certainly haven’t been trying regularly as I’m too unwell the first few months.