What to do? Pregnant unexpectedly

[Lovelyivy]

Looking for advice. Single mum of a boy who is 4 years old. I met amazing guy 4 months ago and we have been inseparable. We talked about having children together from the beginning(he doesn’t have any) and we decided we will start trying august 2022 when we spent a year in relationship.
Now I’m pregnant 😭 we used condoms so obviously something went wrong. We don’t live together at the moment(he lives at home with his mum he takes care of), he is looking for new job in New Years (was made redundant). I’m in university - graduating this year and I live in 1bed flat and I’m on UC. So far from perfect situation. I think he is the one and we will stay together (also I’m aware it’s very early on I’m relationship). I’m just freaking out and not sure what to do…I’m few months I believe I would be excited. Abortion is an option and I’m considering it but I feel silly that If this would happen even just 3-4months from now I would keep the baby. Please any advice appreciated !

Only you can make the decision but it does sound like circumstances aren’t ideal. Neither of you has an income and you only have a 1 bed flat
As for your BF it’s very very early days yet, what is his reaction? Will he leave his mum?
Even if his initial reaction is good it might not stay that way when reality bites - can you do this alone?

Sorry to be negative but 4 months is not long, so I would be asking myself if I would want another baby even if the relationship didn’t work out.

4 months is very early days - honeymoon period. I hope it does work out but I think you need to envisage potentially having a baby and raising it alone, and make your decision based on that scenario, in case it doesn't work out.

Not great. Only you can decide. He has no job and lives with his mum. You are already on benefits and have no job. Maybe there is a welfare officer or counsellor at your Uni you could talk things over with.

I’ve just been in pretty much exactly the same situation. Me and my partner both want kids, we talked about it on our first date, but had talked about a year or two in the future. I found out I was pregnant when we’d been together about 6 weeks. He was off work having been made redundant, and is recovering from mental health troubles, and it really didn’t seem like the right timing.
I was thinking exactly the same as you, though. If this was 6 months further down the line we’d probably be going ahead with it, and I still struggle with the guilt that I chose to let this one go because the circumstances weren’t convenient. I would be almost 4 months pregnant by now.
I ultimately decided that when we choose to have a child, I want it to be at a time when we are both happy and excited about it, and I didn’t want to jeopardise this relationship by putting too much pressure on too soon.
I searched on here for some moral support for people going through the same thing. I don’t know if I have much to offer you other than just listen to your gut, and trust yourself. Only you know what you can handle. And whatever you choose there will be days when you think “what if”.
Just know that you’re not alone in whatever you choose to do.