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Birth fear

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Lily189 · 22/12/2021 13:04

Hi everyone
I'm 38+3 my due dates the 2and January

This is my second baby my first I was induced at 38 weeks due to him being on bigger side and It failed baby went into distress and hi cord was wrapped around his neck I had to have an emergency c section it was all really scary and healing was hard I got an infection and it had really scared me of another c section

My doctor is happy for me to try a vbac and I really hope I can
But I'm also scared of the unknown and if my body will be able to do it and how I'll cope with the pain
Its actually keeping me awake at night overthinking everything

Would love hear some birth stories vbac and labor advice tia

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Lily189 · 22/12/2021 17:33

Bump

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SlB09 · 22/12/2021 17:44

Bumping for you.....

Not had vbac but vaginal delivery with sintocin. Pain was just like progressively worsening cramps like when you have the poops, I had diamorphine in the end and that was like magical juice the made everything fine!!
My baby had to be resuscitated (nothing to do with birth etc) so I get the traumatic ptsd type thoughts and how this influences your thoughts on this labour.
In a way you have to release yourself to whatever will happen will happen and trust your in the right place. Let them know in labour suite what happened last time so they can keep you well informed of what's happenening and if there's any concerns or equally that everything is progressing well.
Lots of pain relief options just take them if you need them.
Hopefully the staff will be incredibly reassuring and supportive given your previous experience and guide you through the whole process. You can do you best to be prepared and inform the team then you've done all you can.
Your bound to loose sleep and worry alot, it's normal. But dont forget essentially you have experienced a tough and traumatic birth and post birth experience that you have got through with your first, this time you at least ha e an awareness of birth and recovery which ever way it went which makes you more ready than you think.
You can do this xxxx

mayblossominapril · 22/12/2021 17:53

I had a VBAC (booked a cs but went into labour and changed my mind)
It was quite a long labour 12 hours, not as long as first time though. But the staff were much more careful with me and there was no intervention apart from episiotomy. Which healed fine.

jellybe · 22/12/2021 17:59

Hi OP. Sorry you are feeling fearful - though from your history totally understand. I've given birth from induction and from spontaneous labour. The induction was much much more painful. I would talk to my midwife/ consultant and see what they recommend re. Going over dates not being induced etc. If it was me I would ask for a c-section if they started making noises about needing to induce. If not I would want to go spontaneous as you are less likely to have interventions etc if you aren't having them messing with hormones.

Also, maybe look at getting A doula as they can really advocate for you and help you work out what you want before hand. One that practises hypno birthing could also help with your fears.

Good luck with what ever you decide and I hope you get some sleep.

Fleur405 · 22/12/2021 18:18

Maybe worth getting one of those online courses like positive birth company or bump to baby? I’ve used bump to baby and think it’s really good. It really helped me to change my mindset to a more positive one (though I was just generally scared I didn’t have the traumatic experience you did). Or look up positive birth affirmations/meditations that you can find for free on YouTube.

YouAreMyDensity · 22/12/2021 18:33

Hi OP, I am a vbac. After a traumatic first birth I worried that everything would go wrong again so opted for a C-section booked for the Thursday. But I was completely wrong,she came bang on time. (Mon) I arrived at the hospital 10cm dilated and had my daughter not long after.
(accept the pain, it’s not pain, it’s actually your body opening up to let your baby pass and doing what it is supposed to do - allow it to do it, don’t fight it, by breathing through it, a yoga ball really helped me do this. Especially when you know it will be short burst and you can rest again.)
The birth was not what I expected at all, but in a good way. Totally surprised me, I expected the worst. But it was, what they call an easy birth, thinking about it. (That being said, always trust your gut, it won’t let you down!) xxx

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