Can you try ‘too soon’ after MC?

[Worriednottheword]

Hi all, I know there’s another thread on ‘pregnancy after MC’ but I’m looking for a slightly more specific answer to whether I would be more likely to have another MC if I tried to get pregnant again too soon? As in, if my womb hasn’t recovered properly and I conceive again too quickly could that cause another MC? I was in hospital for my MC and the doctor who discharged me said to wait 3-4 months to let the womb lining recover, but I’m 35 and I feel like I want to be pregnant again ASAP really. I don’t think the doctor’s advice was for my case specifically, just more of a general recommendation, but they weren’t very forthcoming with any information tbh so I’m not sure.

Also, my MC completed on 17 Dec and I’m still bleeding a little bit (only pantyliners needed), assuming that will stop completely soon and then I’ll have a period? Is it likely to take a full month for my period to come or have people had periods sooner?

Thanks in advance, I’m struggling to think of anything other than being pregnant- especially as today should have been our dating scan 😭

Studies have shown that you have a slightly better chance of a successful pregnancy within 6 months of a miscarriage. I had two in the past year, and I'm also 35 so didn't want to waste time, and the advice from the EPU nurses both times was to wait for a negative pregnancy test so that any possible retained tissue isn't confused for a new pregnancy and not noticed in time as it poses an infection risk. They also said that ideally also wait for a period so that the new pregnancy will be easier to date, but there's no actual medical reason for it.

I had surgical management for both mc, and it took 3 weeks to get a negative preg test, and 6-7 weeks to get my first period. I then conceived on the third cycle again both times. I'm now pregnant for the third time and this one is sticking!

I'd follow the doctors advice.. Better to wait than loose again.

If it helps advice does vary on what stage at when lost. So for one I was told to wait 3-4 months... Other was told fine to start when ready but suggested wait for period.

I'm sorry for your loss... It takes times to get your head around it.... It was harder than I thought it would be.. I'm normally quite matter of fact and practical (wasn't meant to be, not viable, better now than later on etc etc) but the hormones definitely got to me. Big hugs

I'd also follow medical advice....when people say you are fertile within the first 6 months after a miscarriage that is largely true but many take that as a reason not to wait at all.

I went against medical advice.....twice....miscarriage miscarriage and then on the 3rd BFP nearly died from a ruptured ectopic...doctors said repeated miscarriages with no time for body to heal contributed to build up of fluid in one tube....ended up losing my baby and 50% fertility.....

Hey I'm not sure how far along you were when you mc'd and I'm sure that might play a factor. I've had 4 and they're awful, im really sorry. I had an early MC last cycle and decided to try again straight away as I'm 36. I'm now 9 weeks pregnant and it's the furthest I've ever got xx

Thanks everyone! I found out at 11 weeks that there was no heartbeat and baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks.. so is that called a missed miscarriage? Was supposed to have surgical management but started bleeding heavily two days before and had to go into hospital, they removed some tissue during a speculum exam, thought there was probably some left in there, gave me the tablets, nothing happened, removed more with a speculum exam (I think) and then after an abdominal scan was told there was no tissue left but that there was a bit of blood and clots that would come out either now or with next period.

Does that sound like the sort of situation where it would be better to wait a few months? I don’t want another miscarriage if I can help it obviously, so if there is a greater risk under my circumstances then I will wait longer before trying again.

The doctor who said wait 3-4 months hadn’t been the one dealing with me at all before that, she just came in after the scan and said about the womb being empty of tissue and the remaining blood and clots coming out on their own or with next period. But not sure whether she would have seen anything on the scan results to tell me specifically to wait, I really should have asked more questions!

Both my losses were 8-9 weeks and I wasn't told to wait 3-4 months, only for a negative test and ideally one period. But as so happened I didn't catch until about 4 months later anyway. I would think, and don't quote me on this, that if the uterine lining isn't receptive to a new pregnancy you wouldn't get pregnant.

I had a MMC after my first IVF. My clinic only wanted me to wait one cycle to start again.

@bonetiredwithtwins I’m so sorry that happened to you 😔 and thank you for sharing that because I had no idea there could be a fluid build up

@Rachae massive congrats and best wishes for an amazing healthy pregnancy this time!

I've had 3 first trimester MCs and was advised to wait one cycle.
I didn't wait after the last one (v early & had a blood test confirming hcg negative) & am now 16 weeks. I am v anxious this time though - I think mentally I could have done with a slightly longer break between them.

@GinnyBee thanks for that and congrats on the new pregnancy! I do feel like one of the people who dealt with me said it’s fine to try again when I’m ready, but she seemed to think it might be a mistake on an emotional front to rush into it too soon. But the whole thing was so tiring and upsetting I can’t really remember exactly. Wish my partner had been there to take in all of the information.

I'm assuming you were at the care of the EPU? They should have given you contact details in case you have any issues, I would give them a bell and ask for clarification and just say you were so emotional at the time that the information didn't stick. That's what they're there for :) My local EPU have always been very empathetic and understanding and nothing but nice.