Normal to cry all the time?

[Dontgetmewrong87]

Hello, I was wondering if it’s normal to cry all the time in pregnancy? I’m in second trimester and very emotional.

I have a mental health history but it was a long time ago (4 years was the last time) and it was PTSD. I have had very few anxiety symptoms since being pregnant and am over the moon to be expecting!!

However, I am absurdly sensitive and cry very often, almost every day. Sometimes this is when my partner is short with me (he can be a bit grumpy/rude) but often it just seems to be slight low mood, or a very quick crying spell (eg when there is a miscarriage on tv) which then passes. However, I’m not really having many negative thoughts which makes me wonder how hormonal it is. Also Covid/being isolated from friends and family could be a factor.

Anyway, I was just curious how you go about differentiating between perinatal depression and general tearfulness? I spoke to a therapist today but she wasn’t a specialist in perinatal mental health and I have to wait two weeks to hear her treatment plan. If there is one.

I cried a lot when I was pregnant, there was a TV ad for silent night mattresses which had children dancing in it and I sobbed every time it was on. I once tripped over a small child as I rushed to the loo in ikea and I was inconsolable for about an hour.

I do also think I have antenatal depression, but that really is not because I was emotional but because I was just utterly miserable a lot of the time, I had sickness throughout and that didn’t help. The moment I gave birth I felt a million times better. I still cry at the drop of a hat though, youngest is 11 so not related to hormones, maybe I was always sensitive, can’t really remember myself before the kids now.

I’m not sure spamming me with unsourced articles saying my baby will have a low birth rate is the best thing to be doing right now. Reported for spam.

Thanks for the reassurance. I’m sorry your pregnancy was such hard going sickness wise! That would get anyone down.

I don’t feel miserable particularly, apart from the pandemic stuff being a bit relentless. I have hope for the future.

I mostly just feel annoyed now at the other poster copy pasting stupid articles.

I cried at adverts during pregnancy too, I do think it is a ‘thing’ but I don’t want to minimise how you are feeling- can you chat to a midwife about it?

Congratulations on your pregnancy by the way!

Congrats on your pregnancy! Maternal mental health is really important and overlooked. It does seem to be ‘normal’ to cry or be more emotional during pregnancy due to hormones but this should not take over or take away from your other feelings. I cry a bit more at adverts or sad stuff on the TV but can feel a bit numb to articles and stuff. It’s an odd time for everyone with the pandemic and there is some collective stuff going on for everyone. Good you are checking it out with a therapist. It’s important to have support whether this be from family, friends, therapist or a partner. Have only had one major meltdown thus far but all depends on what you have going on and how everything is interacting for you. Your not alone!

Oh yes 24 weeks here, eyes mist at most adverts, bottom lip trembles at songs, few tears at films. Tell your partner to sort himself out though, it my husband was grumpy or rude to me right now I'd eat his head.

I had this with both pregnancies although it was more exaggerated with my first. I could cry tears of sadness at the drop of a hat or tears of happiness just like that. I put it down to hormones, they are far more powerful than we give them credit for. It continued for a good couple of weeks after birth but recognising it as hormones helped me, obviously if it’s distressing that’s another matter and your gp/midwife can help with that, but I will never forget that feeling, almost with fondness now!

Oh I hope you are OK. Before I was expecting DS I was quite 'hard'- never really got upset or cried. I turned into a wobbly pile of blubber whilst pregnant- cried at Gillette razor adverts (The best a man can geeeet!!) - anything on TV involving babies/small kids reduced me to a snotting mess. Seriously if you need some support reach out to your midwife but for me I just turned emotional. Once I gave birth I was slightly better but have still stayed quite 'soft' eg watching the reception class nativity when DS was a donkey had me howling and that was um 14 years ago He is now a real adult of 19!