Slightly freaking

[Jane1987]

I've just found out I'm pregnant. I was told I was infertile and have recently come through cancer treatment so to say this is a shock is an understatement. I have one daughter who is now 10 and our other daughter died at 37 weeks old from an infection.
So I guess I'm freaking out because i feel like the age gap is too big and I'm worrying I won't cope. My mental health hasn't been great this year with treatment and a close death in my family. No point to this post really other than need to feel not alone

congrats on the pregnancy. I can deff relate to your "I thought i was infertile". My husband is a cancer survivor and we never thought we'd be able to have kids naturally. We were thrilled to find out IVF was an option and even then it wasn't a great chance. then i got pregnant naturally. My husband walked round like a zombie for a good 2 weeks. 18 years of thinking he'd never have kids and then it happened without even really trying. Please talk through your feelings with a councellor etc. cancer charities are likely to have people specialising in fertility councelling. find one that suits you.

As for the age gap it really isn't something to worry about. my dad is 11 and 13 years younger than his siblings and they doted on him as a child and now they are all incredible close speaking several times a week despite living in different countries. it will be ok.

So sorry for the loss of your daughter though.

Wish you lots of luck with the pregnancy