Early miscarriage 4-5 weeks

[Sjmc16]

Hi all, sorry if this isn’t the right place to post, I’d just like some reassurance.

I’ve had such a whirlwind week, got my BFP on Monday and had 2 blissful days of being pregnant and then yesterday afternoon started with period like cramps which got worse and worse until I was considering going to the hospital (making me shake and feel sick, so painful in my lower tummy) This was accompanied by brown discharge at first and light bleeding which got heavier and this morning I’ve passed a clot about 2-3 cm.

Thankfully the cramps have mostly stopped, and I’m pretty sure I’ve had an early miscarriage. I’ve called my EPU and waiting for a call back but sure they’ll just tell me to wait it out.

Just looking for some advice and reassurance that I’m best to just rest and let my body do what it needs to. Has anyone had an early loss then carried on to have a successful pregnancy soon after?

Sorry to rant.
Thanks xxxx

Hi @Sjmc16,

I'm so sorry that you've gone through this. I know from experience how difficult it is. You're absolutely right to just rest now, take it easy and do something nice for yourself. I've had 2 early miscarriages and took a week off work to recover (mainly mentally emotionally rather than physically). I think you're right that EPU will probably ask you to test again in a week and if your test is still showing positive then to get back in touch. I'm now just over 12 weeks pregnant and also know so many women who have miscarried early and gone on to have healthy pregnancies and babies. It's such a awful thing to go through no matter how early so do take care of yourself. I also think it's important to remember that it's nothing you would have done, just very sadly this baby was not cooked quite right. I hope you feel better soon x

Thanks so much for your kind words @belleoz I’m planning on taking the rest of the week off to just come to terms with it and rest my body, last night was rough and I think we always put too much on ourselves don’t we!

Congratulations on your pregnancy 💕

Just spoke to the EPU and they said to keep an eye on it and take test again in 3 weeks! I mentioned the clot and they just said that can be normal sometimes in the mornings and that they can’t be sure it’s not implantation bleeding, so now I’m just knackered and confused 🤷‍♀️

Hey Sjmc16,

I had a similar experience at the start of November...bfp then bleeding started just a couple of days later. Was all a bit of a whirlwind.

The dr sent me to EPU for a scan to confirm miscarriage and rule out ectopic etc, so I had that and 2 sets of blood tests to confirm pregnancy hormones were reducing week on week.

Trying again this cycle so no real advice from me, but just wanted to say you're not alone. One of my friends had the same thing happen to her and she got pregnant again a couple of months later, now has a gorgeous 9 month old so all is not lost just because this has happened to us. x

Thanks @LittleMysSister I’m just trying to stay positive either way.

Can I ask how long you bled for?

Wishing you all the best ✨✨✨

Yes no probs, I bled for about 6 days...tbh if I hadn't took the test because I was late I would have just considered it a 'normal' period for me.

Best wishes to you too, hoping for some Christmas/NY miracles for us 😊🤞

As an update (I like to as I’ve been trawling through old posts and I get stressed when they just end ha) I’ve only stopped bleeding this afternoon, I tested this morning because I couldn’t help myself and lines are lighter, did a digital this afternoon and still positive, I know I’ll have HCG for a while yet so going to stop but still feel so lost and uncertain...

Does anyone have any experience of when you can expect a negative test after a very early loss?

I’m still seeing positives and I know that’s normal but I just want to know for certain what’s happened. I feel so alone as I can’t get hold of my GP (not sure what I would expect them to do anyway) and the EPU just said to wait 3 weeks.

My bleeding has stopped fully not after starting up again a bit on Saturday and I again have cramps now. Just feeling so down and want to know for sure what’s happening, I had no idea there was such little support in the early days 😢

Aw @Sjmc16 I so sympathise, I was so anxious all the way until my next period arrived tbh. I can't be much help here because I was so anxious that I couldn't even bring myself to test until I was almost 100% sure it would be negative, even though I'd had bloods showing the decrease in hormones and also an internal scan which showed nothing.

Did EPU actually see you? How heavy was your bleeding? If it remained fairly light then I'd call your GP/EPU back and say you're concerned and unsure if you have miscarried or not, see what they say. My bleeding was as heavy and lasted as long as a normal period for me, if that was the case for you then maybe try and give it the rest of the 3 weeks before testing again.

Hi @LittleMysSister thanks so much for responding!

The bleeding was quite heavy, it lasted for around 3 days on and off and was pretty much like a period, apart from worse cramps at the start and I passed one bigger clot and a couple of smaller ones, so I’m 99.9% sure it is what it is.

The EPU didn’t see me, nor did they seem too bothered but I tend to play things down when I speak to people cos I don’t want to be a bother! I think you’re right and I need to just relax and wait, I feel like a terrible person cos I’d rather it just be negative at this point so I can move on and stop being so stressed Xx

No you're defo not a terrible person, I completely agree with you and felt the same.

Weirdly EPU didn't even tell me to test after 3 weeks but I guess maybe that's because they did my bloods? My GP was quite insistent on getting me sent there but honestly I don't think I really needed to go and it ended up making me feel like it was a much bigger/more dangerous thing as they gave me an internal scan and when they couldn't see anything (because I'd already been bleeding for days by this point so likely already passed everything) they put down 'pregnancy of unknown location', which made me stress !!

I know it's so hard but genuinely the best thing to do is try and stop testing for a while.x