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12 week scan anxiety

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CM40 · 15/12/2021 08:37

Hey all!

Think I'm just using this platform to release all my feelings because I'm confident you'll all get where I am coming from.

12 weeks today with twins!! Had an early scan at 7+3 which showed them both and everything was great! A huge huge shock but all great!

I have my 12 week scan tomorrow and feel utterly consumed with worry and anxiety about it! More than any other scans I have ever attended. I have two older children and have had a small number of miscarriages (several years ago now) but I don't ever recall feeling this nervous about any previous scans.

This pregnancy is a first for my partner so I'm not sure if that's adding to it, not because of him I just mean because I want it to be fine for him and this experience etc. He's utterly over the moon and so so so amazing I want this feeling ti continue for him and us. I think he knows I am worried which is natural but no where near as anxious as I am about it.

I'm literally waking at 4am with thoughts of this appt coming up......are they ok? Is there still 2 in there???? What if one has vanished????? It's literally consuming me!!!

Anyway, sorry for the ramble. I think I just needed somewhere to get it all off my chest!
Thank you for letting me air it.
Best wishes to you all Daffodil

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LeahPaige · 15/12/2021 08:47

Hi @CM40 you're absolutely not alone in feeling like this. I'm currently 9.5 weeks with my second child and had a scan on Sunday, but in the week or two leading upto the scan I was losing sleep, waking up at 6am with that pit of doom feeling in my stomach and really just constantly worrying myself sick that things wouldn't be okay.

Anyway fast forward to the scan - everything was absolutely fine and I had nothing to worry about at all!

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CM40 · 15/12/2021 08:51

So glad to hear yours went well Leah!
Thank goodness it's not just me.
It's bloody hard being a pregnant lady isn't it!!!! SmileGrin
Wishing you the best for the rest of your pregnancy x

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abbs1 · 15/12/2021 08:55

OP your not alone in how youre feeling. I had my 12 week scan back in Sept and my nerves and anxiety were awful. I couldnt eat and sleep properly for days before. Also then last minute no one could watch my son so my husband had to stay home with him as no children are allowed. That made my anxiety even worse. I went in with my heart pounding and thankfully all ok.

Its completely natural and tell your partner how youre feeling so he can support you.
Wishing you all the luck in the world for tomorrow 🤗

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CM40 · 15/12/2021 08:58

Thanks so much abbs1, I did say to him yesterday that I want feeling ok, but I don't think I've really explained how bad it has been the last week or so.

I'm not usually a nervous or anxious person- thank you for you good luck wishes for tomorrow.

He's taking me for breakfast first to kill some time so he'll keep me busy lol!

Thanks again x

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abbs1 · 15/12/2021 11:00

@CM40

Thanks so much abbs1, I did say to him yesterday that I want feeling ok, but I don't think I've really explained how bad it has been the last week or so.

I'm not usually a nervous or anxious person- thank you for you good luck wishes for tomorrow.

He's taking me for breakfast first to kill some time so he'll keep me busy lol!

Thanks again x

Its so hard to explain sometimes how youre feeling but keep expressing your feelings. I found it helped me so much to not keep it all to myself. Also tell the sonographer how youre feeling before they scan you. I found that they were able to help calm my nerves down and were so lovely. Oh thats good youve got something to take your mind off it before your scan.

Let me know how you get on x

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CM40 · 15/12/2021 12:30

Thanks so much. I will do xx

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Notwithittoday · 15/12/2021 12:37

It’s literally shit. I envy these women who go all excited and naive to scans. I was sick with nerves before all mine with my last pregnancy . I remember when the sonographer called my name and I recognised her as the one that diagnosed my silent miscarriage I wanted to run out of the door. It was all ok though and baby is currently asleep upstairs snug in her cot. The only thing I can suggest is pretend it’s not happening tomorrow and keep busy. Then at least you’re only anxious on the journey.

SamanthaVimes · 15/12/2021 14:14

I had really bad scanxiety with every scan in my last pregnancy.

Once I started being able to feel kicks it was easier because I felt like I had a way to keep an eye on baby but before then each scan felt like approaching a moment where everything could suddenly be taken away.

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CM40 · 16/12/2021 17:44

Just wanted to pop in and say thanks again for all the messages. Today went really well! We are still having twins! Lovely scan and lovely outcome xx

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Norks88 · 16/12/2021 17:52

I’m super nervous. We had a scan last year at 12 weeks and recieved the devastating news that our baby had a severe anomaly incompatible with life. I’ll never forget those words. Now currently pregnant a year later and awaiting our first scan. Could cry thinking about it .

abbs1 · 16/12/2021 17:53

@CM40

Just wanted to pop in and say thanks again for all the messages. Today went really well! We are still having twins! Lovely scan and lovely outcome xx
Oh thats lovely news op! I was wondering how it went today. So happy for you! Did you manage to enjoy your breakfast before? x
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CM40 · 16/12/2021 17:57

Norks, there will be nothing I can say to ease your mind but I genuinely wish you all the very best. Congratulations on your pregnancy. Xx

Abbs breakfast was lush :-) definitely enjoyed it.

Now to ponder over gender guesses for another few weeks 🤣💓💓💓

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abbs1 · 16/12/2021 18:10

@CM40 aww good. 😊 oh yes! What do think it will be? Are you wishing for any particular set of twins? Or could they tell you if they will be identical twins or not?

@Norks88 sending you the best of luck with this pregnancy. So sorry your loss. As @CM40 said nothing we can say is enough but hoping and praying all goes well for you this time x

headspin10 · 16/12/2021 22:56

Ah that's great news!! I can completely relate. I'm pregnant with my 4th (so obviously been through this before) but at the 12 week scan I felt so panicky - never felt that scared before.

Thankfully everything was fine. Hope all is well with everyone else waiting for a scan.

Notwithittoday · 17/12/2021 10:24

@Norks88 sorry you went through that. Fc everything is well this time around xxx

GrowBabyGrow · 20/12/2021 21:41

This post really reassured me! I have my 12 week scan tomorrow and am really nervous but glad to know it isn't just me :)

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CM40 · 20/12/2021 22:45

Best of luck Grow. Let us know xx

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GrowBabyGrow · 21/12/2021 09:57

@CM40 all went well :) baby was wriggling around in there and everything as it should be. Very relieved now.

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CM40 · 21/12/2021 10:18

[quote GrowBabyGrow]@CM40 all went well :) baby was wriggling around in there and everything as it should be. Very relieved now.[/quote]
Amazing news! Many congratulations Thanks

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