Fed up

[merrychristmasevery2021]

38 weeks pregnant and so fed up

I don’t know if this is normal emotions to have, it’s my first baby. But I feel so depressed? I’m not looking forward to becoming a mum. I’m kind of dreading it. I think I regret getting pregnant.

I feel so lonely and lonely in how I’m feeling. Everyone just keeps saying how excited I must be blah blah blah - I’m not

I feel like the worst person in the world admitting this but I need to I feel so miserable and I’m dreading what’s to come

Honestly it’s completely normal. It’s SUCH an unknown.

I felt the same, couldn’t really imagine it being real, then when my daughter arrived and was an actual real little person it was so different.

I’m 37 weeks pregnant again and also get the “Not really!” Vibe when people ask if I’m excited, but the difference this time is I know how my feelings change when the baby actually arrives. It’s like my brain can’t compute them as real people until they’re here!

Try not to worry about it, but do keep an eye on your emotions over the days after your baby is born and seek help and advice if you still feel similar :)

@Clarkey86 thank you for this. I have suffered with depression prior to pregnancy and noticed point where my mood dipped.

My midwife knows I’m at risk for PND but the way I’m feeling now I’m really worried I’ll get it :(

I hope meeting my baby changes how I feel like you said and makes me happier because right now I’m so scared I’ll get PND

You know what’s good though? That you feel you can recognise when your mood is dipping into that territory. Try not to worry about what you can’t control - if you do slip into PND it’s treatable and manageable and you sound like somebody who will get help for themselves.

I don’t suffer from depression and I’ve had some really low points over the last trimester - hormones, covid, other life related crap. Hormones have a lot to answer for!

And also…it’s scary having a baby! Cut yourself some slack, let yourself feel the feelings, and then if at any point you feel like you need more support make sure you go and get it. Then try to stop worrying about what ifs.

The chances are once baby is here your emotions will shift and change as they do with a lot of people when baby becomes reality, but if after a few days you are still struggling speak up.