Pregnant after losses and failed IVF

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Hi there! I’m new to mumsnet so please excuse me if I’m doing this all wrong. I’ve just found out I’m 4 weeks pregnant the month after my first (failed) IVF cycle. It was a disaster and showed pretty clearly that my eggs are in terrible shape (I’m 38). In the past year I’ve had one MMC (ended 6.5 weeks and found at 8 weeks) and one spontaneous miscarriage at 8 weeks, plus a couple of chemicals, all on progesterone, which I think has maybe helped with my unfussy uterus which wants to get pregnant every single try - but I didn’t use it this month. I started all the supplements a month ago (dhea, nad+, ubiquinol etc) and I know that’s not long enough to improve my egg quality. I’m really sad right now at the thought of another miscarriage over Christmas. Just looking for some hope and friendship I guess! Thanks for reading.

Just wanted to say congratulations. Know it is so so nerve wracking after previous miscarriages.

Know they say three months for those supplements to take full effect, but there will def be some effect after a month - I think that's what the ISWTE book said from memory. I took those supplements on the intermediate programme also (with the exception of DHEA) for a couple months before I got pregnant this time, and I'm 33 weeks now.

Really hope this one works out for you

Hi a1b2, thank you so much for responding to me in my big messy panic! I’m still pregnant and about 7w now though anxious every day. Im trying to remember that life goes on and we’ll get through no matter what happens. Huge Congratulations on your pregnancy and best of luck with the birth xx

I have been in your shoes. The pregnancy was viable and she is now 4. ‘Grossly abnormal’ as I remember was the phrase used to describe my eggs. I didn’t believe was possible. Have you an early scan booked?

@Chrissmasjammies thanks so much for your reply - I’m so pleased your pregnancy worked out and you have a lovely daughter now. I’m away from my home town and my OB is closed until mid-January so I haven’t booked a scan. Truthfully, I’m too scared to. There’s a walk-in scan place here but I’m terrified to find out one way or the other. Illogical I know!!!

I know how that feels. I wouldn’t let the GP refer me to the maternity services. Missed miscarriage messes with your head, that things can go wrong and you have no clue. I had one daughter after 1 miscarriage and then another daughter after 4 more non viable pregnancies of one sort or another, 2 of them Mmc. Then failed ivf as we had thought we might do embryo screening to find a viable one. It failed and I then conceived naturally the month after. As they say ‘go figure’. I was the same with the scan. How the hell I ever managed to get up on that bed in the epu to be scanned I will never know. It will take all your courage but you can do it. Best of luck

Unfortunately I miscarried this pregnancy at 7w5d. Maybe next time will be the one!!

Very sorry to hear it flower. It’s so hard to keep going and have hope when it feels like one kick after another. Take some time to look after yourself. Wishing you all the best of luck.