I can't deal with being sick anymore

[poppy8989]

I can't cope with being violently sick every day and night. The migraines are killing me.I'm so unhappy
I can't do this

Can you speak to the midwife and ask for pregnancy mental health support? I wish I had done this. Every day you get through is a day of this pregnancy you never have to do again. A lot of people find they get a lot better in the second half of the pregnancy as well. Are you on medication for the nausea and vomiting?

@RainyDayWellySocks they are still trying me on medication but haven't found one that works yet. My heart constantly feels like it's over beating and I'm out of breath just walking from the bed to the toilet (10 steps)
I'm tired constantly but not able to do anything. I will speak to my midwife again soon as I don't know what else I can do but I'm just so unhappy.
I really am praying that after my 12 week scan which Is in just under 2 weeks now that I get a break from this. I feel like a terrible mum to my son too as he just sees me sick and sad

I'm so sorry you're struggling it really is a horrendous illness. My best advice is that it really will pass you will feel better and this will one day be a long ago memory. With that in mind ask for help, ask all family and friends to babysit, get them to do fun trips to the park with your ds, get shopping in or help your dp with the housework. Ask friends to come and chat to you for 20 mins and tell you gossip to distract you, you probably feel completely isolated from everything too and it's bad for your mental wellbeing. I know you don't feel like you but don't try and do this alone. We just carried on without help but it's one of the hardest times we ever went through as a family and I think people would have done more if we'd told them what we needed and how much we needed support. Do the same with the gp, keep going back, the next medicine might be the one that helps. I'm crossing my fingers that you start feeling better. Whatever food you think you can handle a include of have that with no guilt and ice in drinks sometimes can make it manageable. My gp ended up ringing the consultant in the epu and they prescribed Ondansetron, thiamin and b vitamins and that all helped. Tell the gp about your heart and breathing, they need to be working every day to find a way to help you be ok, if you find a good gp who gets the impact this is having it really helps

*Nibble not include. Ps you're a good mum, he will be ok, all mum's feel like this when they have a baby taking all the attention from the eldest, your energy has just been taken in pregnancy instead. A newborn and child to care for is a breeze compared to hg. He knows you love him and you'll be able to play when you feel better and in all the years ahead. It's ok to not be ok- you're having a tough pregnancy.

Pregnancy Sickness Support lots of useful, legal, practical, medical abs enotional support here.

@poppy8989, how are you? I had two HG pregnancies. Both hideous, miserable times of my life. I have never been so unhappy. If I wasn’t in hospital on a drip, my only way of staying hydrated was by melting lemon ice lollies in my mouth.

One day around wk 13, I woke up, threw up
and felt almost completely better.

And speak to the midwives about how this is impacting your mental health- I told mine I felt awful all the time and they nodded sympathetically then carried on the appt but they usually have specialist mental health support available I should have spelled out how terrible I was feeling emotionally. Just suffering endlessly without support will do you no good at all and will make it harder to recover and be alright after the birth as well if you're still processing the trauma of all those hours alone and vomiting when you were pregnant. Get the gp to check your ketones and see if you need to go to hospital again for another drip, the palpitations and the breathlessness are not ok they need to help you.

Sending you hugs OP, your despair and unhappiness is palatable. I really, really, really hope you start to turn a corner soon. Hang on in there, could you get an ice lolly and melt it into your mouth? I really feel for you, it will pass, please bear that in mind.

I’m 6+3 today and absolutely praying I don’t get this as I just don’t think I’d be mentally strong enough and I also don’t want my work to find out until 12-16 weeks as I’ve only been in the job 6 months

Rooting for you!

Hi

A second the messages about getting meds from the dr. Also please see www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/ Loads of info re meds and also offers peer support which can be great to help
With the emotional side . Private message me if you would like more info.

I have been in touch with pregnancy sickness support and that have been great. I still am feeling terrible and so fed up of living life this. Is heartbreaking that I'm so unhappy and cry every day some days all day.
I wouldn't wish this on anyone. It's cruel and sucks all happiness out.

@poppy8989

I have been in touch with pregnancy sickness support and that have been great. I still am feeling terrible and so fed up of living life this. Is heartbreaking that I'm so unhappy and cry every day some days all day. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. It's cruel and sucks all happiness out.

It's so so awful OP. Definitely get advice from A GP. If they're no use get a second opinion!! You should be on a good combination of meds to help with this.