Fed up

[Sprat12]

I’m 20 weeks on Sunday and I am so completely and utterly fed up. I genuinely hate being pregnant. Don’t get me wrong, I’m pleased I am, and realise I’m very lucky to be able to become pregnant but Christ it’s such a slog.

I’ve got fibromyalgia which has got about 1000 times worse in pregnancy. I am exhausted ALL THE TIME. My stomach is killing me everyday; I assume it’s pain from growth but it’s so so sore and bloated. I constantly feel like I need a wee which is messing up being able to sleep as I seem to be up between 6-8 times in the night.

I have been feeling v. faint and dizzy regularly, had a right turn last night and had to sit with my head between my knees or I would have passed out. Then proceeded to vomit like the girl out of the exorcist and have been really ropey since.

Midwife is crap and never returns my calls or messages, the drs are a nightmare to get hold of and the frigging drs receptionists are drunk on power and insist on knowing everything about you before putting you through to a dr.

No point at all to this really, I just needed a vent. Anyone else struggling and then feeling guilty for moaning??

I’m so sorry you’re struggling - it really is tough ride. I have also had the stomach bloating & pain & thought I was the only one - haven’t seen this as a symptom online. Trying to just remember this is all temporary & will be worth it

I feel you have arthritis in knee, hip and back. As well a knee disorder, scoliosis, DDD and spine disease. Only 10 weeks so can't wait for the baby and not having the extra stress on my body. Nausea was bad even before did the test and getting worse. The sickness and not being able to eat regularly is a massive stress on my body. I've got a few extra appointments to discuss how it effects the pregnancy but the NHS is very overrun. Really hope they up support to yourself.

I’ve got my 20wk scan on Monday, and then another gp appointment later that day to check blood pressure so hoping they will be able to impart some wisdom, though by my recent experiences with drs / midwife I doubt it, all seem very dismissive.

Sorry you are feeling crap as well @JessieLongleg ☹️ My nausea and vomiting was awful at about your stage but thankfully it did bugger off at around 13 weeks so hopefully not too much longer for you?

@Hayleyday it does make me feel better that you went through the pain / soreness as well, as awful as that sounds. I genuinely have been quite concerned that it’s not normal as it’s so uncomfortable.

Husband is currently sleeping in the spare room as he’s injured himself and needs to sleep on his back which in turn makes him snore, and me want to murder him. So I’m just feeling really down and deflated. Came up to bed an hour ago to read and have been sitting here having a little sob to myself instead.

Sorry you're struggling, I hate being pregnant too, and sick of being told I'm not allowed to not like it (if that makes sense) I've had really bad PGP from 10 weeks, had an "urgent" referral to physio - now 32 weeks and still not been seen! and have severe asthma, so my breathing is so much worse, I wish I could say it'll get better for you but I'm not sure it will, sorry!
Have you thought about seeing if you can change midwives? You are able to I'm just not sure of the route to take for it, as for GP receptionist - why do you need an appointment with an actual qualified doctor when they can diagnose you over the phone??

@MyDogIsCool that’s horrendous, I’m sorry you have had to wait so long. Though, not surprised. I was referred to the complex midwife team as I was struggling in early pregnancy (7 weeks in I had a total meltdown), and they got in touch to asses me on weds last week 🙃 by which time I had really got over myself and probably didn’t need the assessment / support.

Have you found your pregnancy seems to be dragging because you aren’t enjoying it? I’m dreading the next 20 weeks.

Snort, indeed, drs receptionists really do seem to know it all don’t they!

Give me hope. We are sleeping apart when we can I'm moving so much in bed to cope with extra random pains. I feel quite down already just from the extra stresses on my body. At least the midwife prepared me by saying it's going to get worse lol. Pregnancy is very isolating especially at party time of year with covid running wild.

@Sprat12 tbh I'm just going to ask for the referral to be cancelled, no point in taking up anyones time at this point, I've managed this long, sure I can do a bit longer  lol, and probably yeah, I was in and out of hospital at the start of my pregnancy as the doctors thought I had a heterotopic pregnancy, so lots of scans and bloods and stays over etc, and I was referred to the mental health team too, previous miscarriages and that just made my anxiety extreme, my first appointment with them is 4th January, I'm due feb 6th - no point now lol, I'd rather someone have the appointment who needs it.
hopefully it gets better for you soon! And hopefully the next 20 weeks fly by!

@JessieLongleg are you 10 weeks along or do you have 10 weeks left? That must be awful for you as well! So hard to enjoy it when you feel like you do!! My midwife said the same to me, glad she was so honest about it though!
It's is very isolating isn't it, thankfully we have places like this to come and vent with people who are going through the same/ similar situations

@10 week 4 days along, I was dry heaving before i took the pregnancy test. Took it the day I saw my spine surgeon as felt extra weird and was 5 days late. I'm in phyiso instead of surgery but who knows what the pregnancy will do to me as they found a cyst in my spine cord and have hyperflexability. The phyiso are great and see a chiropractor for my siactica and hip but been getting strong extra pains in that area from week 5. But now mrs no risk taking! I really have to not over push myself and been given advice as if I'm 25 weeks pregnant. Some people don't even have symptoms till now. Midwife has already booked me in to discuss pain relief for the birth. No way I could do birth natural by then the extra weigh on my front will cause me more pain. Midwife was saying they encourage you to move yourself during birth may have to get a walker rather than just use one crutch as I am.

@JessieLongleg as tough as it is, you seem like you have a great team helping you through it and I'm sure they'll only do what's best for you and baby, definitely don't push yourself or put too much pressure on yourself! Maybe they'll suggest getting a walker before birth, might help take some of the pressure off, it's also good that they're having the discussions with you over pain relief etc sooner rather than later so you know where you stand, congratulations on your pregnancy btw! Hopefully it'll fly by for you!

I'm 17 weeks and hate being pregnant too! I feel fat and bloated, so tired and easily out of breath, struggling to keep up with exercise which I was doing regularly pre-pregnancy and every time I go to the gym it annoys me that I can't go at the same intensity that I'm used to. I can't really eat dinner and just have to pick at something small, and the nausea is back this week in the evenings.

Overall I've had a fairly easy time, only nausea and no sickness, haven't had to call off sick from work and been able to function, no pains or anything. So it could be a lot worse, but that doesn't mean this is enjoyable either.

And husband's not helping, every time I express that I don't like being pregnant he just says something like "but it's all part of it! That's what pregnancy is like!" yah I know, doesn't mean I have to like it!