Early scan - looks like missed miscarriage

[Fizzyrascal]

Had an early scan yesterday at a private clinic and it looks like I've possibly had an early miscarriage.

Based on dates, should have been 8 weeks and 2 days yesterday but scan found no heartbeat and put me at 5 weeks 6 days.

Last period was 12 Oct. Was using fertility monitor and got LH surge on 24/25 Oct. Got faint positive on 3 November, then strong positive on 5 Nov. Dates are 100% accurate.

Have been offered a rescan on 19 December but as I'm so sure about my dates it's unlikely to be a dates discrepancy. Any thoughts or experience? The sonographer did say that based on the dates it's likely that the pregnancy stopped progressing.

Have left a a message with NHS Scotland early pregnancy unit - waiting for them to call me back. The clinic advised me to get in touch.

Anyone know what they're likely to say?

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. I had the same experience almost exactly a year ago, with an early scan. Mine showed no heartbeat, though. Did yours? The sonographer who ran my scan wasn’t very clear with her explanation and simply said “I can see there has been some growth”, which I found incredibly unhelpful and made it sound like it wasn’t a baby, but it didn’t really matter what she said. Nothing would have made me feel okay right then.
With my private scan, I was told that I’d need a second scan via the local hospital to confirm a missed miscarriage, which I had, not really to confirm (I believed the results of the private scan), but because they then brought in a specialist to talk through my options.
If it is a missed miscarriage you can be offered medicine to help the body miscarry, have surgery to remove the pregnancy tissue, or wait for it to happen naturally. My preference was to wait and a week after the second NHS scan, I did miscarry. The hospital also gave me codeine in case of any pain.
At this point, you will have time before your next scan, so things may happen naturally for you. Of course there’s all the mental pain to deal with too and again I’m sorry if you have to go through that.
From a practical point of view, make sure you have sanitary towels in case you start to bleed. They advise not to use tampons. You shouldn’t need maternity pads. If you do, you should phone the hospital, but they will give you this advice.
Give yourself time and space to process this. You can phone the hospital with additional questions, so don’t worry if you don’t ask everyone you need to know at the time.
I cried a lot. I Googled a lot. I leant on my family a lot. Do whatever you feel you need at this point. One day in the future, you will turn a corner and come out the other side.

I am sorry you’re going through this.

I had the same experience back in April, although I was supposed to 9 weeks and had had some brown spotting. My gut feeling was that things weren’t right. I had an early scan at the EPU and baby measured 6 weeks with no heartbeat. They told me it could be too early and then booked me in for another scan 9 days later, however, I knew there was no chance (like you, I had the positive test before I should have conceived if baby was actually 6 weeks and things were just too early). The brown spotting had started to become pink/red too so I went away knowing I was having a miscarriage, even though they didn’t say it. A few days later, I had some awful cramps and constant heavy bleeding one evening when I passed the sac and then went to the next scan which confirmed it was clear.
If you are confident, it does sound to me like the pregnancy hasn’t progressed and you have had a missed miscarriage. As above, if you wait for your next scan, you could begin to pass naturally, but if not you’ll need to make a decision about medication or surgery.

For what it’s worth, I had a period as normal 4 weeks after the miscarriage then conceived again and I am now 29 weeks pregnant.
The weeks after that scan were tough, physically and mentally. I have not long passed the due date of that first pregnancy, which was also a bit hard. Look after yourself. Same as above I cried a lot and couldn’t look at all to the future, but I am here now in my third trimester and doing great.

There is a also miscarriage forum on here that I posted on a lot in those weeks, it was so nice to talk to people going through the same thing at the same time as me.

I am very sorry you are going through this. It happened exactly the same to me back in May. Three weeks discrepancy, being so sure of your dates, does not sound very good. In my case it passed naturally while waiting for the second scan. It was barely painful and fairly quick at least. Five months after I got pregnant again.