Sex during pregnancy

[puppystress]

I miss sex and I know dh does too. He is very patient and isn't pushing me, he knows I've been feeling like absolute shit.

But I miss the closeness and the fun we had with sex. I loved getting dressed up and feeling sexy. Now I have spd and am in pain and feel like a frump.

Even when I'm feeling okay it's got to the point I just feel awkward and don't initiate as it's been a long time now.

Once I give birth I know it'll be a while as I'm having a c section.

How do I get over this??

What are you both doing to retain some intimacy? Kissing, cuddling, holding hands? You say you miss it, is there anything you’d want to do and enjoy doing?

What is it you want to get over?

Sorry you’re in pain.

We cuddle, hold hands.

I miss the passion I guess. But I'm in so much pain and so tired.

I feel like my body doesn't belong to me, like I am trapped in this thing that I don't recognise. I don't feel like me.

I want to get over this feeling of disconnect with my own body, and with my dh I suppose. I want to have fun in bed again. Our relationship is very healthy in all respects and he has been brilliant and understanding. But it makes me sad that the sex has stopped and I feel the longer this goes on the worse it will get iyswim.

You sound like me op. I'm 36 weeks and I miss sex but I miss me too. I struggle with pregnancy badly. I also have spd and will also have a section this time too.

I wouldn't say I'm depressed but I definitely don't enjoy being pregnant I struggle with the pain, discomfort, lack of sleep, lack of fun and looking at my body.

Whilst I am ever so grateful for this pregnancy and my last 2 i can't say I even enjoy knowing/ feeling their is a baby inside me, besides the reassurance it gives when the baby moves the feeling of movement makes me feel a little queasy.

However, in my last 2 pregnancies straight after when I got out of hospital I felt like me again the old me. I actually can't pinpoint a time in my life I felt happier than that feeling of this perfect little baby and feeling like me again. Within around 3/4 weeks our sex life was back and I felt better/ happier than ever.

I was so scared if PND but my previous 2 times I've had the total opposite feelings. I only hope it's the same this time too.

@sayusayme

You sound like me op. I'm 36 weeks and I miss sex but I miss me too. I struggle with pregnancy badly. I also have spd and will also have a section this time too.

I wouldn't say I'm depressed but I definitely don't enjoy being pregnant I struggle with the pain, discomfort, lack of sleep, lack of fun and looking at my body.

Whilst I am ever so grateful for this pregnancy and my last 2 i can't say I even enjoy knowing/ feeling their is a baby inside me, besides the reassurance it gives when the baby moves the feeling of movement makes me feel a little queasy.

However, in my last 2 pregnancies straight after when I got out of hospital I felt like me again the old me. I actually can't pinpoint a time in my life I felt happier than that feeling of this perfect little baby and feeling like me again. Within around 3/4 weeks our sex life was back and I felt better/ happier than ever.

I was so scared if PND but my previous 2 times I've had the total opposite feelings. I only hope it's the same this time too.

Thank you so much for posting...I couldn't have written the first part of your post! Such a relief to read the rest of your message it gives me hope all is not lost 😊

I absolutely hate being pregnant and I feel so bad saying that.

Dh is wfh this afternoon...on these occasions I used to love getting dressed up..I know it's cringe...stockings, bit of lippy etc...but he is the first person who has ever made me feel okay to do stuff like that and we used to have such a laugh doing it, I loved feeling sexy for the first time in my life. The thought has crossed my mind to try the stockings on today and see got I feel but it's like something is stuck. I dunno...like knowing the baby is just there is quite off putting or something

If you feel up to it try it but don't force yourself to then feel worse if you can't.

DH and I have dtd around twice in the last 20 weeks (it's that bad!). He never says a word we talk openly about it and he knows I miss it too it's more of a joke than anything else at the moment which we both laugh at and I suppose both live in hope this time will be like the other 2 times after.

Well we did it 😁

I tentatively tried a little outfit on way before he got home to see how I felt. I felt bloody good! Had a pamper session and put on some lipstick for his return and I've never seen him so surprised and so happy 🤣🤣

Found a position that didn't hurt and off we went!!

We both needed it so bad and it's given me back some of my mojo, I don't feel so scared.

Thanks for listening!