17 weeks pregnant he's lied about porn is he is lying about cheating?

[FirstTimeMum6666]

Hi
Sorry this is my first time writing..

I've been with my partner for 8 years and I'm nearly 17 weeks pregnant.
My partner over all these years have always said to me he has no interest in porn and only finds me attractive blah blah blah. I have NEVER said he can't watch porn or anything he is always ott with telling me this kind of stuff.
He has changed phones and left his old one at home so I looked and found this morning he had watched it before I got up. I have been suffering with HG all pregnancy I'm not well at all! He knows I feel very fat and ugly and it's just hurt me!
I don't care he watches porn I care that he has lied to me!! In the past I have caught him out in lies he shouldn't of even lied about! He is secretive with his phone and now it makes me doubt if he's lying about cheating?? He made sure all his texts and WhatsApp was uninstalled though!
I feel absolute shit and down. I've always said to him that lying bothers me as he always boasts that I can't lie and I feel he is taking advantage of that to this himself knowing I am faithful :(
I really don't want to be a single mum but the lying I can't deal with as it makes me doubt everything he's ever said to me!

Again I don't care about the porn watching its the lying before anyone says its normal to watch porn.

Also we have had sex while pregnant but it was really uncomfortable and made me feel really sick after.

Please help I don't know what to do! Thank you!

He's lying about the porn as he knows it will hurt your feelings (and he's right, hence your comments on your sex life). You can tell him you know, 'i know you watch porn and I don't mind but please don't lie to me.' or you have a row about it which would indicate you do mind really.

This is separate to your sex life which should not be addressed in the same conversation.

And thinking he's also lying about cheating is a bit of a reach.

I'm not surprised he would lie about it given that you get upset about it especially if you say you are feeling fat and gross. Likely just trying to spare your feelings.

I'd be more worried about wiping all texts / whatsapp but since he switched phones maybe he was just doing a clean down. But could be the man just wants an easier life and keeping everything wiped is easier than a misunderstanding or defending otherwise innocent chatter to someone going through his phone which shouldn't be happening anyway 😛

Probably using it to get off during your down time. Wouldn't worry honestly.

I never understand why they feel the need to lie about watching porn. He probably thought that's what you wanted to hear and in his mind he tried to be nice.
I think you should be honest with him. Tell him what you found in his old phone and how it made you worry. Ask him to show you the messages in his new phone (right there in front of you, do not give him opportunity to delete anything) Explain that is just something you need to calm yourself down. If he gets defensive and refuse, there is definitely something wrong.
I am sorry you going through this, this situation is not ok, you shouldn`t deal with this during pregnancy, so do not make it worst by going through his stuff. Be honest how you feel, and make him explain why he is so secretive with his phone and why he lied about watching porn.