Pregnant but freaking out!

[Bigmistakemaker]

So me and my husband have been trying to conceive for 2+ years. We've had lots of ups and downs as expected but this last month I made some big mistakes.

I've had an incredibly high sex drive this month and have had lots of unprotected sex with my husband. But I've also had sex 3 times with someone else. They wore a condom each time and noticed nothing out the ordinary, ie no splits or slipping off or anything like that.

I'm now pregnant and convinced it's one of the times I used a condom and not one of the unprotected times. I know it's probably guilt anxiety and I'm definitely guilty as hell and feeling awful as I rightly should.

My husband is so excited and after trying for ao long I really want to be excited but i can't. How likely is it that its not my husbands baby? Or am I only going to know with a paternity test?

Please don't be mean. I don't want any sympathy either I brought this all on myself.

Hey @Bigmistakemaker
Realistically, if you were a condom with the other person, then the chances would be very, very slim that it’s his baby and not your husband’s.

I guess your main next step is deciding if you want to tell your husband you cheated and maybe work out what drove you to it.

I hope you tell your husband, even if it is his baby.

I doubt you’re going to get any sympathy so I wouldn’t worry about that.

I guess the only thing you can do is get a paternity test? But I think you'd probably have to tell your DH for that, not sure if you could do one without his knowledge as you'd presumably need a swab from him or something.

Have you had sex with this other person/anyone else before this month? I'd be concerned that you've been TTC for 2 years with no result with your DH but the month you've been with someone else you've conceived.