PCOS pregnancy and severe anxiety

[Mummybear2cats]

Hi, new here

I was diagnosed with PCOS aged 16y after going to the doctors with excessive facial hair. Over the years they never been able to help with this 🤣

I have always wanted to be a mum but after years of not using protection I have never become pregnant and so I had a very real belief that it was in my path.
This has been hard to deal with as I have always loved children and work as a paediatric nurse. Dealing with others making pregnancy announcements over the years has become increasingly difficult to the point where I would not attend anything baby related.
I have had issues with mental health due to childhood trauma which ive mostly managed better, I have anxiety, EUPD and a query on bipolar but again manage to function well in life.
In 2016 I took my first and only overdose and was quite unwell. I took this in relation to infertility but my intent was not fully there it was more about wanting things to change rather than a true intent to die. I have also struggled with self-harm in the past but not for several years.
I met my boyfriend (first actual relationship) 2 and a bit years ago and 7 months ago we started to try and get pregnant.
I tried to get a fertility referral before I was with him but due to being very over weight I was rejected, I payed privately for a gastric bypass and lost 8 stone. I now have a bmi of 29 and have recently started a new referral to fertility.
Im 34 years old and have cut down caffeine alcohol etc and don’t smoke. Im now only on vitamins for gastric bypass, metformin for PCOS and folic acid plus sertraline for anxiety.
I have just found out that I am 4 weeks pregnant 😃🤰👶 i was in total shock at first as I really had a belief that I would never get to be a mum.
This shock has now turned into a quite high anxiety that something will go wrong.
My sister also has PCOS and endometriosis and has struggled she got pregnant once but lost the baby at 20 weeks and hasn’t managed to get pregnant since. This is also causing my anxiety to increase.
Will the anxiety in any way have a negative impact on my pregnancy? Is there anything I can do to lessen the chances of MC.
I have booked in for a private 8 week scan for reassurance.
The anxiety is the same anxiety I feel the evening before I’m due in work (I have work anxiety around my role/level of risk and capability) I have a general feeling of nervousness and find it very hard to fall asleep.

Any advice appreciated ♥️🧸👶

Hi I also have PCOS. I don’t think the anxiety ever goes away but try to stay positive.

I got pregnant from metformin earlier in the year but miscarried. I then used clomid and got pregnant again. I went back to my private gynae and he put me on Aspirin and Cyclogest. Maybe look into whether you can get these as they help with miscarriages. But given you’ve never had a miscarriage unsure if you’ll be prescribed these?

I would stay positive. Just take it a day at a time. Think of it as I am pregnant today and don’t think about tomorrow.

I’d also speak to the midwife once you get your appointment if you can’t get the anxiety under control because there is a lot of help out there.

You’ve got this! Stay positive!

I am still laughing about the facial hair! I can relate hahaha 😂

Firstly I want to congratulate you on your pregnancy.

You've got this! Having anxiety is normal, especially with all your and your sister's history. I would say to try some relaxation techniques and take care of yourself. Do they allow massages in the first weeks of pregnancy? If yes, I would definitely book some sessions.

Oups sorry pressed the button 😅

So yeah, my advice would be to take care of yourself, cancel any plans with negative people (we all know a handful of those!) and ask your midwife like pp has said!

I have PCOS, ocd and anxiety and am on sertraline too. I also am sitting next to my four month old baby right now!

It's horrific, and there's not much I can say to cope with the anxiety but I'd speak to the perinatal mental health team asap so you can get support in place. I had CBt during my pregnancy and I didn't announce it anywhere until twenty weeks.

Congratulations by the way!