Hiding pregnancy from family over Christmas.

[FourPlusOne]

Will be 10 weeks preg at Christmas. Am feeling awful, really nauseous, tired etc. Have also put on a bit of weight as I've been eating lots to ease the nausea (that's my excuse anyway ). We are spending Christmas and the days following with family in their homes - not much time at our home - so it'll be really hard to hide the tiredness/excessive eating/increased waistline from them! It is our 3rd DC and we didn't tell anyone about the first 2 until after the 12 week scan. I am having a scan in the new year and ideally would wait until then. But then normally I can avoid spending full days with family members!

DH and I don't know whether to mention it to the family - in a sort of 'by the way, we are (hopefully) having a new baby next year and that is why fourplusone is feeling really shit'. Rather than a cheesy Christmas announcment with champers to celebrate etc! (no offence to anyone who has done/is doing this, but I want to see scan before getting too carried away). Also, don't want to take over the family's Christmas with our news IYSWIM.

Has anyone been in this situation? Should we just keep quiet and if people suspect then let them think what they like. Just don't know what I'd say if anyone asked. My mum guessed with last 2 pregnancies but didn't say anything until I told her.

Sorry, v long winded question!

Tell them you are really hung over.
They will then think the sickness, grumpiness and being tired is all self inflicted. If you are with them all night just say you must have had more than you thought. (Or the mens favorite - a dodgy pint)
Dont refuse wine with dinner just dont drink it. We all have a few different glasses on the table nobody will notice which one you actually drink from.

congrats!

I think that family will guess but just not say anything so I'd think you might as well tell them.

Hope you have a good pregnancy, a dry Christmas really sucks (I was preggers last year).

COngratulations!!

Ear infection with antibiotics, or gastric flu - both worked for me

I always told my parents when pregant. I did have 3 mcs but my parents were able to give me invaluable support. I think I had not told them then just told them when I mc, obviously they would of still supported me, but I dont think it would of been the same. Them knowing from the begining meant that they had been on our emotionally rollercoaster for the last 12 weeks and the preg meant something to them too. Anyway good luck with what you decide

Hi all, I'm in this boat too - will be nine weeks at Christmas and haven't told anyone yet. I think normally I would want to tell the parents and in-laws, even though it's early, but unfortunately DH's job is up in the air at the moment and can't be sorted out til January. For some reason the parents are already more worried about it than we are (there are a couple of things in the pipeline and I have a LOT of confidence in him) and I just can't face the 'oh dear, what if you are unemployed when the baby arrives' conversation ATM... The hangover/virus excuse has been working for me so far, so I will see if my mum is as happy to (at least pretend to) believe that as my friends

Have developed quite a bad cold not too (great) so the flu excuse might work! Spoke to my mum on the phone this morning and said that I thought that I was coming down with something just to get the illness excuse established before Christmas day!! She told me to take echinacea which I never take when pregnant or breastfeeding so hope she doesn't try and force some down me when I'm at their house.
Have already got a bit of a tum (I always show early) and my jeans are too tight do do up properly . My wardrobe is limited until I start to tell people because most of my tops make it obvious I have a little bump.
Don't miss not drinking though - the thought of an alcoholic drink just makes me feel ill, so at least I won't resent missing out on a festive drink (tries to put a positive spin on the horrible morning sickness!)

wow all these babies due in july yes im another one too only my dh and 1 other person know i have my scan early jan but i have aproblem too i have already seen my mw at surgery and shes coming out on the sat after xmas and all my kids are here especially my teenage son i have no idea how hes going to react so i can either put the mw of until scan but then i wont see her for a month as on the day of my scan i go to the airport to catch a flight to florida for a month no idea what to do here i will be 16/17 weeks when i come home and didnt really want to leave it that long without seeing the mw what a decision !!!! any ideas?

i dont recall seeeing the mw earlier on made any jot of difference! no offence to any mw, but alll that happened was my details were taken down in a booking appt etc