Telling family early because of Xmas

[durdledoo]

Just found out I'm roughly 5 weeks pregnant. It was a big surprise for us as we were convinced our family was complete.
Very confused and worried and just not sure what to do but...

One of my main concerns is we go away with extended family for 2 weeks at Xmas/ new year. They'd be bound to notice and I wouldn't want to try and hide it for all that time with people trying to pour me drinks etc, I'd usually be the first on the Prosecco, they'd guess.

Problem is I don't really want to tell them, the people we go away with (dh's side) aren't particularly supportive, won't be excited for us and have a habit of making everything a drama (we have been together 10 years , have a mortgage, two children, a dog and stable careers and they got very upset when we got our home/ actually cried because they were worried we couldn't afford it). Very anxious people to say the least, who when we told them we were having dc2 weren't exactly happy!

Just for context ^^ as to why i dread telling them any big news.

I wouldn't even have had a 12 weeks scan by Christmas and it all seems very quick and early and just not ideal at all!

Anyone else been early stages of pregnancy over the festive period, what did you do?

@durdledoo well next year think about just suiting yourself, honestly you're lovely to include them but people who just create drama are hard work and you deserve a lovely Christmas too. At least some years!

Hope it all goes well and make sure DH shuts down any negativity on their part. 💐

That is such a hard predicament we have family for Xmas and they are very judgemental and won't be happy we are also pregnant for a third time - and like you we have mortgage, cars, both have good jobs, 2 other kids and we are in our early 40's so I totally get your concern. I am slightly earlier in pregnancy than you but when you havent had scans yet it's so difficult - I am going to attempt to accept drinks and tip them or swap them and hope that works but like you I'm not sure that would work for 11 days - could you do that for a few days and then for a few days pretend to have a dodgy tummy?