I think I'm having a miscarriage - 5 weeks 1 day :(

[PollyLLB]

Hi everyone,

I'm posting this as I think I just need someone to be honest with me so I can stop googling and just move on.

I'm 5 weeks 1 day today and I've known a week. I haven't had lots of symptoms, mainly tiredness, going off my food and breast pain. I've had some twingy pain and cramps here and there.

This morning I went to work and realised that I was bleeding when I went to the loo. It's not heavy, but looks like it's watered down and isn't showing much on a pad, just when I wipe. I came home and started getting cramps. I called the doctor who said it would be difficult to tell at this stage but got me a scan at the EPU for Friday.

Since I've been home the cramps and bleeding have continued but haven't got worse. My breast pain is slowly disappearing though and I feel like this is a strong sign of a miscarriage.

I just want some opinions, please be honest. I hate this not knowing, I just wish they could say yes you're having a miscarriage and I could just get on with it and accept it. I keep trying to convince myself I'm not when deep down I know I probably am :(

Oh bless you! It’s so awful. Of course, this could be a sign of a miscarriage, so I would prepare yourself just in case. However, I had bleeding from 3wks to 8wks, and I’m now 16 wks and baby is fine. For me it started off light and doctors originally said It was implantation bleeding. I had pms style cramps too. Then at 6 wks had an evening where it got heavier (like a period). Ended up in A&E and had a scan at EPAU. All showed baby was fine but that I had a haematoma. This can be caused by implantation and apparently isn’t uncommon and I was told it should heal on its own. Bleeding died down but the light spotting continued for a couple of weeks after before eventually stopping. They said what’ll happen will happen and they can’t do anything that early on. It doesn’t help, so I completely understand your situation- I just wanted to know if I was still pregnant or not and for weeks we felt in limbo until we knew. I really hope this turns out well for you!

I feel like I've been preparing myself since I found out I was pregnant as I know it's more common than people think, but it's knocked me a bit today :(

Thank you for your story, it is helpful to hear about other peoples experiences! I'm glad that everything is going well for you :)

I am keeping my fingers crossed everything is ok here, but if it's not then I know we can try again and it's nice to know we can get pregnant. I just wish it was more straight forward, whenever you look online it says it can be normal and also abnormal, you just never know!

Thank you for taking the time to reply to me :)

I’ve had it both ways. Once it was a miscarriage, second time everything was fine and they said it was likely implantation bleeding. Really hope it’s good news for you. I know how hard the waiting is. Wishing you all the luck

Thanks, I really hope it's good news too but I feel it's unlikely.

Bleeding and cramping has stopped completely. My boobs still feel quite sore but I just don't feel the same anymore, all my twingy pain I had before has stopped too. I passed a tiny clot today about the size of a grain of rice and I've had some very light brown discharge.

Who knows what's going on, I wish there was a way to tell.

Thank you for replying

I had similar in my first pregnancy. I had cramping, back pain and bleeding. I had lots of clots too. The GP thought it was likely a miscarriage. I was sent for an early scan fully prepared for the worst and everything to my surprise was fine. The bleeding stopped and didn’t happen again and I have a healthy daughter.
These things can go either way. You will hear happy and sad stories. You won’t know for sure until you have your own scan. Wishing you lots of luck x

Thank you for replying :)

I really hope this is the case for me too, but I'll only know on Friday, I just wish it would come sooner!

I'm glad your pregnancy went well and you have a beautiful daughter now :)