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Serious depression in pregnancy - please help :(

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strawberry0 · 21/11/2021 19:37

I'm posting in the hope someone takes the time to read and reassure me I'm not alone :(

I am 23 weeks pregnant and suffering seriously with my mental health. Some days are ok and some days are awful. This weekend has been the worst so far I have cried since Friday night (it's now Sunday night) and my eyes are chapped and swollen from crying.
The day I found out I was pregnant a dark shadow came over me and it makes me feel so sad and guilty. We planned this baby but the idea of planning for and trying for a baby is far more romantic than the reality!
I cry all the time. I feel disgusting. I feel confused and hopeless every single day. I feel angry to the point where I could punch someone's lights out (this is not the real me I am so laid back normally) I am crap at my job because I can't concentrate. I can't sleep a full night I am only getting about 4 hours at the most and I am exhausted emotionally and physically.
I'm horrible to my partner and my parents who try their best to be there for me.

Please can someone tell me if they have felt this way - I only ever heard of post natal depression not depression during pregnancy. I thought it would be the best time of my life but it's the worst. I feel so guilty that the baby might know I feel this way :( I feel detached from my pregnancy and I feel like the old me who I loved is dead and gone never to return :(

I'm scared to tell my midwife as I'm worried they will jump on me and take my baby away. There is already a big focus on my mental health as I have been on anti depressants in the past and was in a violent relationship.

I haven't told a soul how I feel but for some reason I find it easier to open up to strangers :(

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strawberry0 · 24/11/2021 11:08

@Nikki108 I'm so glad you're on the mend now and I hope I can follow In your footsteps. I have made an appointment with my gp now so fingers crossed he can help me get better xxx

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Okidokey · 24/11/2021 11:14

@strawberry0 I'm so glad to hear you're feeling ok. Huge well done for making that step and booking the appointment. I wish you all the best xx

strawberry0 · 05/03/2022 22:38

Just an update to all those lovely people who replied to me on here trying to help me all those months ago...

My baby boy was born just a few days ago, and every day since I have cried, but this time they're happy tears :) all those negative feelings I had disappeared the very second the midwife handed him to me Thanks it's a love I just can't describe and one I hope everyone gets to feel in their lifetime

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newtolineofduty · 05/03/2022 22:50

Congratulations OP! Enjoy your baby boy x those newborn snuggles are over far too quickly! X

LightSpeeds · 05/03/2022 23:00

Wow! Wonderful news... Congratulations.

OystercatchersPaddling · 05/03/2022 23:18

Congratulations OP Flowers best wishes xx

Okidokey · 06/03/2022 10:51

Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear this news! Wishing you all the best x

Queensize · 06/03/2022 12:02

I felt like this when pregnant with ds1. I honestly think it gave us a more intense bond when he was born. You'll be ok, but do get the support you need.

Queensize · 06/03/2022 12:03

Just seen your update - huge congrats! 🥳

strawberry0 · 12/03/2022 20:12

Thanks everyone Smilewish I could go back in time and tell myself it will all be ok! I feel guilty for wasting my pregnancy feeling so bad but I am head over heels for him now Smile

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Anxiousmama3 · 12/02/2023 16:48

Hi everyone.
mom 8 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby.
I’m in an absolute terrible state and suffering from what I now assume is anti natal depression. I live in Goa with my husband and 2 kids 2 and 5. We have our marital problems for sure but the pregnancy was much wanted I know that I always wanted another baby.
I’m now beginning to doubt everything, around 6 weeks a deep dark black cloud took over everything and since then I have been an absolute mess. I left Goa and my husband and came back to London with the kids and am now staying in my parents house. I know this was a very irrational act but at the time it felt like that was what I had to do, and since then I’ve been going back and forth between keeping the baby and terminating.
like I said i really wanted another baby, I was happy when I got the positive test but bang on 6 weeks something happened and I feel terrible. I cry all the time and don’t know what I want or who I am anymore.
the thought of terminating literally kills me but I’m also terrified that I’m not going to be able to cope with another baby.
i did also suffer in my first pregnancy which cleared around 10 weeks and I did consider termination in that pregnancy too, something I’m so glad I didn’t do. But this time I feel people want me to terminate excluding my husband. I don’t know what I’m hoping people will say but I just needed to say it all out loud and hope there are others who have been through and survived this.
thanks for listening.

strawberry0 · 12/02/2023 22:52

@Anxiousmama3
please don’t make any spur of the moment/rushed decisions about your pregnancy, in a few weeks time I hope you will feel a lot better. Please go and see a doctor or midwife and open up about how you are feeling. It does sound like anti natal depression.
I suffered with my mental health badly in my pregnancy but now my baby boy is almost 1 and I love and adore the bones of him. I fell in love soon as I met him and my pregnancy is a dim and distant memory now.
hang in there you will do amazing ❤️

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eczemamummy · 12/02/2023 23:07

Wonderful update OP x congratulations ❤️❤️❤️

Emelene · 13/02/2023 16:41

Lovely update OP. Congratulations on your gorgeous baby boy!

I hope things continue to feel really good but if anything does change there’s lots of support out there. You sound like an amazing mum xxx

Jackiebroe · 02/10/2023 14:52

I'm 10 weeks pregnant and feel so alone my ex doesn't communicate and I said it's becoming a problem I ended things with him because of it
I'm rasing my daughter by myself and now il be doing the same with this 1 it makes me very sad I just feel to kill myself

strawberry0 · 02/10/2023 18:06

Please go straight to your gp or midwife! Don’t go through this alone, please get professional help and confide in your friends/family about how you feel. You’re not alone and you’re going to do amazing! Your ex sounds useless and does not deserve you or your two children

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