Coping with grief during pregnancy

[emispregnant2021]

I'm not sure exactly why I'm posting this, maybe just for some reassurance, I'm 15w 4d pregnant and recently I've suffered a huge loss and I'm really struggling with grief, I'm worried about constantly crying and having these panic attacks that I'm affecting baby, but I can't stop. I can't help it. I'm trying so so hard to stop I'm trying to breath but I just I'm hugely struggling. I don't really have any friends, I do have family but they're busy and grieving in their own ways. I feel awful I feel like I can't win. I know in time it will get easier but I just need someone to reassure me that I'm not affecting my baby. Sorry this is so morbid. I'm just struggling and I don't have anyone to turn to.

You don’t need to stop, you need to allow yourself to grieve in the way you need to. Baby will be fine but needs you to process and get through this (which you will). I suffered a loss of a loved relative when pregnant with my twins. They are now 10 and are amazing, happy, loving little girls. Be kind to yourself, cry when you need to and take things a day at a time.

so sorry to hear about your loss.

Allow yourself to grieve. It's the healthy thing to do and being sad & crying won't harm your baby.

But I think that for your own health's sake you would benefit from talking to a GP or MW, have your blood pressure checked, ask them if there are any signs to look out for that could indicate any problems with your physical health.
They might suggest you have some low dose anti-depressants for a short time. or you might be able to get some counselling (chances are there's a long waiting list so get on it asap).

A lot of people find crafting therapeutic so maybe you could channel some of the grief into a project (crochet & knitting for example) which in turn would give you some focus and distraction.
But if you can't do anything but cry then do that. sending you gentle hugs

My dad died when I was pregnant, I was in absolute bits, my baby is a happy one year old now. I’m so sorry you have had a loss during the pregnancy, it’s so so hard to process during this time and even harder to cope with. I was glad I was pregnant as a distraction in a way, it gave me something else to focus on.

Hello, I’m sorrry you are having such a difficult time. My mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer when I was 8 months into my pregnancy.
I cried every day, right up until he was around 6 months old.
My baby boy was fine, a laid back and happy 13 year old.
Let the grief out, and be kind to yourself. Don’t try to suppress your tears, it will just be stored up for later.
Wishing you peace and strength to find hope.