When to tell daughter I'm pregnant

[strawberrysummer19]

So, after a few years and infertility I've just had a positive pregnancy test from IVF...family and few friends already know as we told them for support - our daughter is 10yrs old - doesn't know ins and outs obviously but knows I was having ' scans done ' and that's it.

However when do we tell her - does everyone wait for 12 week scan or before ?

My finance and I have struggled a couple of times and said something out loud and I'm just conscious she will pick something up!!

So will have to be more careful! But was just wondering when people have people have told their other children xx

Hi!

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I am also wondering when to tell my children. This pregnancy has come as a huge shock so its early days and its been a long time since I last did this too! Our daughters are 10 and 16. I am thinking of telling them when I am 12 weeks pregnant so I can be more sure that everything with the pregnancy is going OK.

My husband and I are also trying to be very careful what we say at the moment as our youngest is always hanging around listening in! We either talk about things when they are both in bed, or I phone him in the day time when they are at school/college.

Good Luck! xx

My DM told me at around 16 weeks when she knew the pregnancy had stuck. She'd had numerous mcs in the eleven years since I was born. She was the confined to bed rest for most of the time and had to do all the housework, shopping and cooking.

I told my girls, 11 and 7, at 13weeks.

We told our much younger children (3 and 4 at the time) before 12 weeks. But we caveated it by explaining that sometimes you start to grow a baby and it doesn't work.

I have two DC, 10 and 7. I wanted to wait until 12 weeks to tell them but I was so sick and tired that DS10 started to suspect something was up. We had a private scan at 8 weeks when we knew we'd most likely see a heartbeat and told them both then. DS broke down in tears and said he was so happy because he thought I had cancer I'd seemed so poorly!

I think it's fine to tell them before 12 weeks if you want to, maybe mention sometimes things can go wrong? Or if you can hide it then wait till 12 weeks.

I told my 9 year old DD when I was about ten weeks because I had hyperemisis and she was getting really worried about me being sick so much.

We told our 8, 6 and 2 year olds right after I'd had the 12 week scan.

We told our 4 year old once we'd had the screening results after the 12 week scan.

Thank you all! That's interesting that the majority did wait, that's what I'm thinking but I must admit I'm finding it hard. She's so switched on and hears everything! So we will just have to be more careful. I hate the thought of her getting sus so when we do tell her she already knows or thinks we've lied !
Also if I do get sickness or anything then she may get sus so I'll see how it goes!

Thank you everyone xx

I told my then 4 year old as soon as I was pregnant. I had had a lot of losses, all of which she knew about, so it didn't occur to me not to tell her.

Told my 12 yrs old as soon as we found out.

@zurala @BloodyAlarms thanks for the reply
I'm thinking I'll tell lo after my bloods
But as above someone suggested maybe just that it's early days and still need to wait because I feel it's so hard not keeping it from her - I've played everything down so far so I'll probably just try do the same x

I told my dd after a positive 8 week scan. I lost the baby a week later and telling her that the baby had died was really hard. Waited until 12 weeks this time. I'm 22 weeks now and feel like she has known for ages. 40weeks is such a long time to wait for a baby so telling later means there's less time to wait.

Like @whosaidtha I've told mine before and subsequently miscarried. This time I told them after nuchal scan. It was too hard on them and I absolutely ensured I wouldn't put them through that again. I'm 25+ weeks now.

Huge congrats!!

I’m expecting number 3 and telling the other 2 after 20 week scan - it’s such a long wait for them otherwise! But they are younger - 6 and 4 - and I’m bigger (size 16) so not showing yet. Scan is this week so nearly there!

At 10 my instinct would be to try and protect them from any potential for bad news so I'd want to wait at least until 9-10 weeks when MC risk is lower if you feel you can't wait until the scan

I told my DS when I was 12 weeks, I've had alot of losses so wanted to wait until I had passed the "danger zone" but mostly for us it was to make sure baby didn't have any severe birth defects before telling him. I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant, DS is 9, he will be 10 when they are born ❤️