Unattractive when pregnant ?

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Did anyone else just not want sex AT ALL when they are pregnant?

I feel soo unsexy and unattractive and I just couldn't think of anything worse at the moment. Me and my DH haven't had sex in a couple of months and I'm not sure if I should be concerned with how I'm feeling or how it will be effecting him.

Has anyone been through the same thing ? Help!

Are these two different problems maybe?

Not wanting sex - totally common and understandable. Your hormones are all over the place. May be nothing you can do about this until they change!

Feeling unattractive - more a state of mind? Your body's changing, and some bits might objectively be a bit bigger/wobblier, stretch marks etc. But you are growing a human! Every wobbly bit has a purpose and it's a beautiful purpose! If you can get into that mindset it might help. Or just try to focus on the good bits - do you have better breasts/thicker hair etc?

Yes normal! And normal for like a year after too! All I can recommend is reassure your dp its not to do with him and just how you're feeling and you're still attracted to him etc.

Completely normal! I completely went off sex for the first and second trimesters. The first trimester because I constantly felt so sick and nauseous that any major movement made me feel worse, and then second trimester because my hormones were all over the place and my libido went through the floor. Also, because my bump wasn't that big during that time, I just felt fat and chubby rather than pregnant and I felt very unattractive.

I am now in my third trimester (29+5) and have noticed I am starting to get my sex drive back. My bump is a proper pregnant bump now, and I've started to feel better about my body - as I actually feel and look pregnant now, not just like I have eaten too many pies! And also my hormones are settling down and so my sex drive is higher and DH and I have been having sex again properly the past couple of weeks.

The only difference now is that we can't do certain positions i.e. missionary as I don't want to be laying flat on my back, and also bump gets in the way of some others.

Trust me, it is completely normal!! And it may return towards the end like mine has. All completely normal part of pregnancy

and I agree with previous poster to reassure your DP that it isn't him, you find him attractive still etc etc. It can be difficult for them to understand that it is your hormones and body causing you to feel this way, not because you don't want to have sex with him in general.

Ugh, I have no desire for sex at all. I feel like a whale, and the bump is so heavy and big it would just get in the way. Not to mention the pelvic girdle pain...

Thank you for your responses!

I'm so glad to hear I'm not alone with this.
Yes I try to make it clear that it's how I feel about myself and nothing at all with him, but I do think it's hard for him to understand why I feel so crap some times.