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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Feeling so guilty about work

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MissMollyx · 19/11/2021 07:11

So I'm 17 weeks and I'm getting a mix of good and bad days. Not been sick my whole pregnancy, but the feeling of sickness, MY GOD was strong and I still get that from time to time. I work 6am starts on a 30 hour contract, so finish times vary to get my 30 hours a week.

I had 2 days off this week as my days off for the week. I felt fine on those days, slept amazing. Then I went back to work yesterday and soon as I left I felt exhausted, was on my feet from 6am and then had my half an hour break at 9am and was on my feet then on self service checkouts till I finished at 1pm. I felt so sick last night and was asleep before 8pm and we have an air con problem in work so it's so humid in there. That definitely kicks off my headaches I know that. I drink water like it's going out of fashion in there. This morning I work up with a mild headache and I went to work just thought grin and bare it, but I had to ask to be sent home. I just feel so guilty for leaving before my finish time. My boss is a stickler as well, so she just said "okay see you tomorrow morning" and walked away. Now im laying in bed so guilty I left. I can't afford to leave early, but also don't want to torture myself by staying and making myself more sick feeling.

What im trying to say is, which is on my mind. Can this be used against me? Im so scared I'll lose my job because I've been off 3 times since I found out I was pregnant because of sickness and one of the times was because I had the flu so she didn't put that down as pregnancy related.

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Sleepyquest · 19/11/2021 07:16

No it can't be used against you as is pregnancy related.
Also I would talk to them about sitting at a checkout rather than being stood up. They should have offered you this by now I would have thought.

MissMollyx · 19/11/2021 07:27

@Sleepyquest I really don't mind the self service checkouts when I'm only in until like 10am for example because it's only an hour standing after I've finished my cleaning duties job.

But when I'm on a 15:30 finish because that's a 9 hour shift I'll refuse to stand in self service which 100% annoys the managers. But we always need a till on for bigger shops, so I never see the problem. But yesterday I knew I should of said something but I'm such a pushover sometimes I just don't say and then I paid for it yesterday when I finished because I was exhausted. I just about managed to eat my dinner. So today when I woke up and felt crappy I just couldn't be that pushover🤦🏼‍♀️

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sjxoxo · 19/11/2021 07:34

Can you get signed off by your doctor if you are unable to manage?? I understand about feeling guilty… some people won’t be very supportive so you might need to stand up for yourself at work. Don’t feel bad about that xxx

KatherineJaneway · 19/11/2021 07:35

Are you in the UK?

MissMollyx · 19/11/2021 07:41

@sjxoxo it's just not affordable for me, my work haven't got good sick pay at all🥺 I was signed off for 2 weeks when I found out I was pregnant because I've had 4 early miscarriages and the pay I received from that wouldn't last a week.

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MissMollyx · 19/11/2021 07:41

@KatherineJaneway yes, I'm in the UK x

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choochoomama · 19/11/2021 07:50

Hi,
Ask your management for or HR for a risk assessment. Usually this is done once you tell them about your pregnancy. Speak to your GP they can request amended working too. Please be kind to yourself, this is a special time in your life and you need to rest. Pregnancy affects everyone differently.

MissMollyx · 19/11/2021 07:56

@choochoomama risk assessment was done about 10 weeks ago now when I went back to work after the 2 weeks signed off as I was so anxious in that first trimester, which I still am it never goes away worrying. And I think that's why I'm feeling guilty, I'm a worrier by nature. I've even decided to go off on maternity leave at 34 weeks and use holidays as I just don't think anything will improve with how I feel and work. I want to enjoy it and not make myself bed bound from being exhausted. I feel like even what im saying here is ridiculous🤦🏼‍♀️

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