Second Trimester and feeling really down because of friendships. Any advice?

[Amtheyest17]

Hello,

So I’m 23 weeks and I’ve been feeling really low this week. I do think it’s in part hormones but also I think it’s really starting to hit me that I’m having a baby & my life will be changing. Up until now I’ve tried to keep up with friends as much as possible & most people have been accommodating with pregnancy friendly activities etc but with the Christmas period coming and a lot of plans revolving around drinking I’m starting to feel really left behind. I actually had a friend cancel on me the other day as they had, had a rough day at work and wanted to go for drinks rather then dinner so went out with colleagues instead.

I am very excited about the baby but I’m starting to feel a bit isolated. Barely any of my friends have kids & the ones that do all have other closer friends who have kids. I’m worried in a few months time I’ll have no one.

I know there’s an element because I don’t feel like myself I’m maybe closing myself off a bit and not reaching out to people to make plans but I’m also so tired and even a dinner after work knackers me out. Let alone forcing myself to go to a pub or something for someone’s birthday because it’s the one thing I’ve been invited to.

Does/did anyone else feel like this? Will it get better?

I do think it's pretty normal. You're tired and you've realised that yes, life will change. Do try to keep up with your good friends though. Friends just interested in partying might fall by the wayside but most of your friends will still be there when you're ready to go out again.

Plus you'll meet other Mums and Mums to Be along the way.

Have a look to see if there are any meet ups for Mums to Be, your local NCT might run them or something like Pregnancy Yoga.

Then when you're on Mat Leave, start going to your local playgroups. You don't have to wait until LO arrives and once they are here, you'll already know some local Mums who will be thrilled to meet your baby

Hi @SleafordSods thanks for your response! I have started going to pregnancy yoga & I signed up to peanut today but I think because I’m having these issues in my existing friendships my confidence feels a bit knocked but will try to keep putting myself out there and also get better at messaging my current friends to keep in touch even if I can’t go out! I think I’m letting it all get on top of me and hiding away a bit.

Thank you!