Miscarriage what has just happened and I need female hugs..

[Berrydoor284]

So ladies I’m not sure what just happened to me. I was stood in the Q in boots to get a prescription and I thought I had wet myself. (Happens after 4 kids abs my twins did my body in) anyway i felt like a bubble sensation. I looked down and there was blood all over the floor. I crossed my legs but couldn’t move. It was a busy store and had to get the pharmacist over as I was scared to move. She took me in the back helped me by getting pads. I’m
So embarrassed I really really am.

I know I’m having ANOTHER mc :( I was so hopeful this time. Scan at 5 weeks was great and 6 and I only had a scan 24 hours before where I was discharged from the EPU as all looked amazing.

I had no warning signs. No bleeding no pain. I honestly would never of even thought I’m a bit worried today about the pg.

I don’t know what I’m looking for - someone to maybe share that they had something happen so quick and out of the blue?

Some virtual hugs because I’m so embarrassed.

I called the EPU as when I got home bleeding got quite bad one pad in 3 minutes with a toilet full. It’s lighter now. But pain kicked in. They want to scan me tomorrow I don’t understand why!? I have lost the pregnancy… what will they be looking for? Feels like it’s just prolonging the agony really.

Love to all 💕💕💕

Ah BerryDoor, this randomer is giving you gentle hugs at this sad time. If I were with you I'd put you on my lap as if I were your mammy and rock you gentle through this heartbreaking time. Sending love x

Ps absolutely no need for any embarrassment, this is outside of your control and there was nothing you could do to change the outcome

Oh, sweetheart I'm so sorry this happened to you. The pharmacist sounds lovely taking care of you and I'm sure they were not phased in the slightest.

There is no rhyme or reason why this has happened and there is nothing you could have done. I also know the helplessness.

I too had a 'bubble' moment followed by some seriously heavy loss of blood, and then the pain. Please be kind to yourself. Sending a very gentle squeeze to you.

They'll want to check how much is gone/if there's any tissue left which could cause infection if they didn't notice it.

Oh that’s all very scary.. remember blood gives life so skip the embarrassment, it’s just a body fluid.. so just try and rest snd sleep, and please God it’ll all be ok..

Lots of hugs to you. That's sounds awful. Have a rest and take care of yourself op

Sending very gentle hugs to you OP, and I wish you we. Please don't be embarrassed, and I'm glad you were looked after.

Hugs here too OP. X

More hugs coming to you. So sorry.

Hugs thinking of you💖

They’ll want to scan you to check there’s no tissue remaining as this can cause infection.
Sorry you are going through this

I'm so sorry. That is just awful.

Don't be embarrassed, firstly.

Secondly, a major bleed is not always the end, though of course you'll need a full exam. Just try to take it one hour at a time and be gentle on yourself.

Sending gentle hugs @Berrydoor284, and please don’t be embarrassed.

I hope you are managing to get some rest and will be thinking of you tomorrow

Sending big, big hugs. I hope you are not in a lot of pain. Hot water bottle? Take care of yourself, drink plenty of fluids and try to eat a little, you must feel so tired and weak. I have never gone through this but my heart goes out to you x

Ladies thank you everyone I read these at
3.00am after having a sleep and waking up needing the toilet but being too scared to get up and go. I don’t know why I fear that blood gush so badly.

The support and love has gone such a long way. You really made me feel better about where it happened. Funny what the mind fixated on. I was thinking of god in boots legs crossed with all that blood. After the amount of blood and clots at 3.00am I was happy to get to the EPU and in my head I was relieved that I was quite sure my body had expelled most of the pregnancy and a scan would confirm that. I was ready to move on and heal. Especially as when I woke up and the bleeding had slowed down. Just red. I treated myself to two caffeinated coffees 🥰🥰

So… to get there and find a baby with heart beat with no visible reasons for the bleed I am now in such a head mess situation. The scan was an abdominal and they just can’t find a reason for my pain or the bleeding.
The pain is like period cramps…

God knows what’s gone on. God knows what’s in the future. I didn’t get much info. I was told “it can happen” but from the EPU point of view they can’t see why or how.

I’ve had 2 8 week losses previous to this one was complicated as it was a multiple pregnancy and the sac etc was enlarged but the single 8 week loss I had was fast like this abs had the exact same blood amount and clot amount and pain so I really am at a loss.

So I guess I just plod on. Hope for the best. See what happens.

Thanks again ladies. All these replies have meant so much to me. 💕💕💕💕

I can understand why your head is in a mess, as you had in a way come to to terms with losing this pregnancy. And I have everything crossed that the cramps and bleeding will stop, and that you will have a healthy pregnancy.

Do you have any follow up care booked?

I hope you have some help with your DC today and can relax a bit. Thinking of you ❤️

I had the bubble moment at 10 weeks pregnant it was at home during the night (got out of bed and it was just like a feeling of a bubble bursting) but the hospital insisted I went for a check up (it was years ago). They still insisted that they scan me the next day, to see if I needed a d and c to make sure that the miscarriage was complete. At the scan they found a heartbeat, and she is now 17 years old. It was suggested that the loss I experienced was either a large haematoma or a twin, I’ll never know for certain. Sending you my thoughts and hope you are ok x

I had a colleague who was rushed to hospital several times with severe bleeding in early - mid pregnancy. Proper puddles on the floor type stuff (she said it was dripping off the couch when she had an emergency scan). The doctors asked her to consider terminating as they were concerned about the amount of blood she was losing and they couldn't find a cause. She refused to terminate and her daughter is now 16!

Thank you everyone for taking the time to reply with experiences about similar situations.

I’m really at a loss. I know what will be will be but it absolutely messes with my head that a bleed and clots like that can’t be accounted for.

I had some questions after the lady that scanned me said
“Could be your cervix or a SCH we aren’t seeing on a scan” she said call your midwife. So I called and I can’t get seen for three weeks I was told call my gp to have urine tested and maybe get my cervix looked at. I was told by reception they can’t do that so call midwife advice line. Midwife advice line told me to call GP. So I called GP back.
I managed to speak to a GP who did some bloods and got me to do a urine sample.

Then he said if I have pain and clots and blood go back to EPU but I’m still bleeding a bit and had a random quite large clot last night and have the dull ache and pain in my tummy and cervix pain the pain has gone this morning just a bit bit more like normal pregnancy aches.

I know if I follow guidance I will be at the EPU every day something I find pointless as what can they do? Midwife said don’t take strong pain killers doctor said do.
Google said rest as much as possible if it is SCH or cervix doctor said don’t but last night when I went to work I’m a cleaner so full on physically and I care for my dad my bleeding was worse and blood loss increased.

Normally during my MCs I move about as it normally has helped the blood loss and clots get expelled quicker but now I’m not sure..

Absolutely zero idea. I guess I just wait it out and asses it in 3-4 days and take it from there.

I know many ladies get some blood in pregnancy and online it mostly talks about light bleeding maybe a bit of medium but I’ve only ever bled like that in 8 weeks MCs.. with clots like that and pain like that…. Yet here I am.

I said to my other half who couldn’t come in with me I wish I showed them the pictures I took as I had to say it really wasn’t “light” as they kept saying some women do have bits of blood and all is ok.. 🤔🤔 some women have a bit of bleeding and all is ok. There was nothing “a bit” about it…

This is certainly an experience. ♥️♥️♥️♥️

It sounds like they should check your cervix urgently and consider possibly a cervical stitch. I hope they see you soon , it must be very worrying not having answers x

Hay Sara kitty 💕💕 I have seen gyne today and had another scan. I didn’t feel comfortable all day Saturday in my mind. More questions then answers and Google just kept leading me to MC resources and info on small bleeds and spotting and I couldn’t find anything relevant. I’d had no bloods to check if my iron was ok after so much blood loss, no checks just the scan. So I called the district midwife line as I don’t see a MW for another 2 weeks.

She was fab and said she wanted to make some calls. She called me back and said gyne wanted to see me. This was a different hospital.

Long story short I had a number of tests and swabs and all fine on Saturday.. (iron slightly low and blood pressure low but to be expected). The doctor looked all through my pictures and he told me sadly I think you have had a mc. I explained the scan the next day and I think he thought I was crackers.. He told me to go home and rest and attend a scan on Monday but “He wanted to prepare me for worse case” He said he couldn’t find the scan report on my notes.. I kind of went away really confused but happy I had checks and tests.

Today’s scan showed baby doing great with great growth as I was measuring 8 weeks 6 days, which shows great growth from previous scan and growth is inline with previous scans and my dates. Heart rate was strong and all the sac my uterus womb ovaries etc looked great. The tech said she could see maybe where a SCH was. But it’s now so small she wouldn’t of seen it unless looking. My cervix shows it has had “some trauma” but healing nicely and closed and looking healthy.

So they asked me to wait for the doctor and I asked all my questions. They will monitor my cervix and my pregnancy possibly more but he doubts this situation indicates cervix issues and sadly it is an extreme version of what can happen with a SCH. I have growth scans anyway - quite a lot so they said they will possibly do more. I’m always consultant led anyway so that won’t change.

They were happy and confident to discharge me back to community care and gave me a list of things to watch for and do..

What an experience it’s been. My pain is settling and the bleeding is just old blood now…

I’m still scared to death. Scared to go out. Scared to do too much. I panic everytime I go to the toilet but I hope I adjust to this new pregnancy normal.. I hope we finally get our rainbow but taking it scan at a time now. See what community midwife says in a couple of weeks 🤞🏼🤞🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

@Berrydoor284 So sorry that you are going through this and the uncertainty ❤️

Can you phone triage? They are wonderful here and will see you very easily. Despite the NHS being stretched I have never received such fantastic care before. Voice how anxious you are and that you need some answers at least!

Sending you a big hug x

Little update just if anyone comes past this via Google… or ever finds themselves in this situation and feels as alone as I did / do I’m currently 16+3…, had another big bleed at 13 weeks… big clot this time. :( round, red and the size of my palm. I couldn’t be scanned for two days as I was still in isolation for Covid. But I did stay the night at EPU as the clot was big and blood loss was quite significant. The doctor diagnosed a highly likely miscarriage based on the picture of the clot, the smaller clots I was passing and an internal and blood loss.., So again I died on the bed getting scanned 2 days latter to see baby doing fine…

The SCH was discovered again that time.. two this time one to the left of the placenta and one above my cervix. Classed as medium….. another scan at 16 weeks shows one near cervix passed out which makes sense as I bled medium flow for a good week… and the one near placenta has turned grey and looks like it’s absorbing.... it doesn’t look like an active bleed now. But I now know these things can go either way.., you just can’t say..

Baby still here though. After 20 week scan I should get a bit of a clearer care plan…

@Berrydoor284 What a scary and stressful time for you!! I'm glad you have some answers in the fact it is a SCH. They are a lot more common than you would think, it's just not spoken about a lot.

I had one at 13 weeks which was 6cm and by 18 weeks it had completely resolved and confirmed again at our 20 week scan with the placenta sitting in a good and normal place. I had three episodes of fresh blood then it was brown and slowly became discharge and then nothing. I didn't go on bed rest, however, relaxed and did a lot less than normal. I upped my water intake and drank a glass of orange juice most mornings! No sex or exercise until I got the news that it had gone.

Take it easy and keep positive - most SCH's do go onto positive outcomes and always ring if you are concerned! Big hugs x

Hope you are doing ok @Berrydoor284 x