10 weeks pregnant symptoms have gone and I’m terrified 😪

[milly26x]

Hi wondering if anyone has had anything similar. I’m 10 weeks pregnant following IVF and had extreme symptoms (sickness all day, very sore boobs, extremely tired and exhausted, tearful etc) from 3 weeks to 9.5 weeks, I’m 10 weeks today and my symptoms have gone since the past couple of days and now I’m panicking I’m having a silent miscarriage
I’ve had four scans already at 6,7,8&9 weeks which have all been perfect but I can’t shake this panicking that I’m miscarrying. I only get relief for a few hours after a each scan then I’m back to panicking again.
I feel I can’t speak to the midwife because I don’t have any real concerns such as bleeding pain etc and I don’t have any family or friends to speak to as no one in my life apart from my husband knows about the years of infertility/IVF/pregnancy.

Has anyone had loss of symptoms and been okay?
Thank you

Don't worry @milly26x! The same has happened to me, loss of main symptoms at 10 weeks. The placenta can take over between 8 and 12 weeks so more than likely this is the case for you

When is your 12 week scan? If you are really anxious could you book a private scan or voice your concerns to EPU? To be honest they will more than likely say similar about the placenta but they may book you in for a scan especially with IVF xx

I did but my symptoms weren’t as extreme as yours to begin with. I’m 14+4 now and everything is fine, although I also get the anxiety after a scan, once the initial relief at seeing the baby has worn off.

I am not a medical professional but it is excellent that all your scans until now have been perfect, and I’ve read that after seeing a heartbeat the chance of miscarriage is much reduced. There is also a risk calculator that someone on here linked to on another thread, hopefully they will reply too as I can’t remember it.

At this stage your placenta will be taking over and your hormone levels are settling, and with that the symptoms do reduce, so it could be a healthy sign too

Focus on your 12 week scan, and try not to worry, although I know how hard it is.

I would speak to your midwife...she should know your history and understand your concerns.

I had the same thing at 9 weeks...horrific morning sickness and other nasties just stopped overnight.
I have a thyroid condition which can increase the risk of miscarriage so was terrified.

I was able to have an early scan.. all was fine and that little bean is now 17 and doing her A-levels.

Unfortunately the sickness also came back for the entire duration but it was worth it .

@babyboybluex I’m hoping it is the placenta etc but I’m still on a high dose of progesterone which I’ve been on daily since 3 weeks so if anything I should still be getting symptoms from that but nothing and now I feel sick but it’s because of panicking just wish I could be normal and happy and not worrying 24/7 but I can’t. My 12 week scan isn’t until 13 weeks so the end of the month. I feel stupid for keep booking private scans every week when it only gives me a few hours of reassurance anyway I don’t know what to do anymore

@TashieWoo I’ve seen that the risk of miscarriage is lower but my brain just chooses to focus on the percentage of miscarriage rather than the percentage of non-miscarriage I think after going through this hell for four years my brain won’t let me believe this will result in a baby so I don’t get my heart even more broken just can’t shake the constant panic that the baby isn’t alive or even there anymore

@MintyCedric id feel so stupid for calling the midwife when I’m not having proper concerns in their eyes like bleeding or pain and tbh no matter how much she would say to me over the phone not to worry I will still have these worries I’m glad everything worked out well for you. Tbh i would rather have horrific symptoms if it meant the baby was real and alive

I know what you mean...I felt daft too, but you sound so very anxious...she may be able to offer you support with that too.

I found those first few months when you can't see or feel what's happening inside your body really scary, and that was without your history of IVF, so don't ever think your concerns are unjustified.

@MintyCedric I’ve booked another private scan for later on today, I feel an idiot for keep spending money on a scan every week just to get a few hours of reassurance after each one when I could possibly have a baby to be saving up money for. At least I will know for sure today if the baby is alive or not just can’t cope with all this crying and panicking 24/7

bless you, have the scan for peace of mind. Im 7+2 and havent seen the heartbeat yet. I the dr told me to come back when im 7 weeks but im just too afraid to go. Good luck with your scan.

@MadamMaltesers oh bless you if it’s any help I was able to see and hear the heartbeat at my 6 week scan but it was faster and stronger at 7 and the ones since. You’re a lot braver than me being able to wait longer I think I just have a massive fear of the unknown and my brain goes into overdrive if there isn’t proof that everything’s okay, so the scan makes me feel better for a few hours but that’s all it’s so hard

I did lost my pregnancy symptoms around week 9 but it came back after 4-5 days. Having strong symptoms from the beginning is a very good sign, and it's natural for them to come and go and and to dissapear after week 10.
You need to find the way to worry less and trust your body (I know! Easy to say...)I understand how stressful it is ( I had a mmc and a chemical before my current pregnancy) and I would love to say it will get easier as the pregnancy progress but it won't. Getting scan every week only puts even more pressure on you! What helped for me is to book them in advance and never changed it (once a month). Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about how the pregnancy progressing, but you need to look after yourself and your mental health!

Best wishes for your scan @milly26x, you aren’t doing anything wrong by having weekly private scans as your emotional well-being is so important and this is such a difficult time in pregnancy as PP have said.

I didn’t have my nhs scan until 13 weeks either and the wait after my private scan at 7+4 felt like forever.

Try to relax between now and your scan, can you do something to try to occupy your mind for a few hours?

@TashieWoo I just feel extremely exhausted and fed up so just going to have a lie in bed until it’s time to go just trying to mentally prepare myself for what’s to come. I already feel like a massive failure as it is because normal women take one test then wait until their NHS scan and are fine then there’s me panicking 24/7 apart from the few hours after each weekly scan I’ve had I don’t know what I did to deserve all of this years of heartache.

@Tina8800 I would love to be able to trust my body and stop worrying but after the last 4 years I just can’t. I know I can’t change the outcome but I can’t let myself believe for weeks that I’m pregnant if I then eventually have a scan and find out I haven’t been for weeks. And I know it’s not right for me to have weekly scans but it’s the only few hours after out of the whole week where I can actually relax and believe I’m pregnant and know that the baby is alive

@milly26x you need to do what you must to get through the first trimester, if I had the same history as you I'm sure I'd be the same! All the very best with your pregnancy.

@Greymalkin12 thank you I just hope everything is okay at the scan later even though I’m sure it’s not. Time will tell

You are most certainly not a failure

It might be worth thinking about having some counselling support to help with your (quite understandable) anxiety. Maybe ask your midwife about it at your next appointment or see if you can speak to someone privately? There are probably counsellors around who specialise in helping women through what you are going through, and will be able to help you.

At 8 weeks I suddenly lost morning sickness/nausea - I panicked. It returned at 9 weeks for about a week I think, then went entirely. I'm now in the third trimester . I really hope the scan goes well today.

I'd like to encourage you to speak to your GP about how you feel because they might be able to give you a referral for support:
www.nhs.uk/pregnancy/keeping-well/mental-health/

@TashieWoo My next appointment is the middle of December so I’ll mention it then if we get far enough to be needing that appointment.

@RosiePosiePoh I’m glad everything is going well for you and I hope mine is the same. My symptoms shouldn’t have gone as I’m still on a high dose of progesterone but we will see later I suppose. My GP is absolutely horrific claimed to know nothing about the IVF even though they were the ones that referred me to the hospital for it 2 years ago, and last week refused to prescribe me the meds that my clinic told me to get from them and sent me away in floods of tears panicking that if i don’t get the meds my risk of miscarriage massively increases but they didn’t care one bit. So the GP will be less than 0 help to me unfortunately

I'm 36 weeks pregnant and my symptoms were so hit and miss in the first trimester. My SIL was having horrendous morning sickness and had a miscarriage so lack of symptoms really dosent mean anything's wrong. I got no sickness and only a bit of nausea that came and went every few days. I know it's really hard but try not too worry. I went for an early scan at 8 weeks which really reassured me xx

@sageandbasil yeah I had scans at 6,7,8&9 weeks and I’ve booked another for this afternoon at 10 weeks as I just can’t stand this panicking even though I’ll only feel better for a few hours (if everything is fine) at least it’s a bit of relief from all the crying and panicking for a few hours

I'm sure everything's fine but completely understand your worry. Good luck lovely x

@milly26x how did your scan go

I hope your scan went well

Iy's the placenta starting to do some work :) My symptoms went around 8 weeks and came back at 11 weeks. I'm also on progesterone, which I think only caused constipation during those symptomless weeks. All is fine though, I had a perfectly healthy scan at 10+4!

@milly26x hoping you had some reassurance at your scan