Guilt over being selfish in pregnancy

[Littlebee90]

I’m almost 8 weeks pregnant. I am so, so bloody tired. I wake up in the morning and I feel like I have flu without the sore throat etc.
I work full time, I have an 11 year old and my dh works away from home Monday to Friday.

My job is so physical, I am hanging by the end of my shift and I come home and I’m dead on the couch the rest of the night. I am not cooking properly, I’m eating too much junk and the housework is piling up.

It is my day off today. My house is a shit hole. My plans were to go a nice walk, then head to my mums who is poorly with a broken rib and help her out with the housework. I got up this morning feeling awful, took dd to school and I’ve just cancelled on my mum because I really need to sort this house out. My sister is visiting today so she hasn’t been abandoned and I said I would pop up after work tomorrow. I needed an extra rest this morning and now I need to sort the house or it’s going to get worse.
I think mum was pissed off but I’m so angry and emotional because nobody gets that I’m a one man band trying to juggle everything, and I’m not available to help other people when I’m struggling myself.

Hi,
Sounds like you need to go easy on yourself. You're doing everything you can do and there's no sense in ploughing on and ignoring your body even if that was possible.
It's hard at this stage because your family don't know about the pregnancy (?) so maybe aren't being as understanding as they would be.
If I was you I'd just write this week off with the house dirty and eating what you can, wait until your dh comes home then you can clean together and maybe do some food shopping and prep so next week is easier.
Hope you can get some rest today.

Take it easy. You are very likely to start to feel better and have more energy soon but in the meantime have a rest!

It's not selfish to take some time for yourself when needed. Why should you always be bottom of the pile? You matter just as much as any of them.

Don't worry about the house, although I'm one to talk as I do the same and sacrifice precious free time to doing chores as the state of it keeps stressing me out. Thankfully now, 11 weeks in, my husband has finally caught on that I should avoid stress and has started doing more to help me out.

But honestly try and just stop caring! Let the house be and do things you want and feel like doing. Get your husband to help at the weekend and give some chores to the 11yo. for some pocket money.