MC a year ago. Pregnant and sad

[SweetSunflowerBoo]

Today is 1 year since I had my miscarriage.... but today I'm just over 37weeks pregnant.
But I feel so miserable mourning the baby I lost.

My miscarriage was traumatic aswell

It's making me feel selfish as I have a healthy baby who is due any time soon.

Is it okay to feel like this? To be sad for today?

It was supposed to be happier day as i met my fiancé this day some years ago but I can't shake the sadness

I was hoping and hoping my rainbow would come today but it doesn't look like it

Is it okay to feel like this? To be sad for today?

Of course. Be kind to yourself today. I’m sorry for your loss.

Look - this hasn’t happened to me, but it did to a friend of mine. While she never forgets the baby she lost, she absolutely the adores the baby she went on to have. And now thinks of it in terms of “well, if that awful sadness hadn’t happened then I’d never have known DS - and he’s amazing”. And it’s helped her a huge amount to come to terms with it all. Hopefully when your lovely new baby arrives, this will be the same for you.

It has been 16 years since I had a late miscarriage and I am currently 26 weeks. I still to this day mourn the loss of my baby especially on the day it happened (which was my birthday). But since being pregnant it has become more overwhelming. What you are feeling is completely normal. We all deal with grief differently x

I had my baby in my arms two days before the year anniversary of my miscarriage- and I still had a cry thinking about the baby I’d lost even though I was holding my very precious live baby. I think it was partly because of the sadness and pain of that day but also all felt strange because I was holding a baby but it wasn’t THAT baby… it was one that simply wouldn’t have existed had that miscarriage not happened. It was a weird feeling.