16 weeks, scan tomorrow and so worried

[TooMuchCheesecake]

I have a private scan booked for tomorrow and I can't stop worrying they will tell me the baby has no heartbeat.

I felt the same before my 12 week scan and the baby was healthy, although I still came out afterwards not feeling very reassured as the sonographer didn't speak at all the whole time and when I asked at the end if all looked ok he said "so far so good".

I have booked this private scan for a bit more reassurance but the closer it's getting the more convinced I am that something is going to go wrong. I had a mmc 9 years ago at 11 weeks and I think that contributes to my anxiety. Also I felt so sick for the 1st trimester but for the last few weeks I have felt pretty much normal. I haven't felt any flutters yet. I have been told to take 150mg of aspirin every day as I have low Papp-a, this has worried me too.

Not sure why I have written this post, looking for reassurance I suppose, and has anyone experienced similar?

Hi op, I'm sorry for your previous loss. Congratulations on this pregnancy. I also have a history of miscarriages and had terrible anxiety as a result through my other pregnancies. I think it's an area of women's mental health we don't talk enough about. If possible, some counselling might help. I found it really valuable.

Good luck tomorrow! I wouldn't worry about symptoms. I think they come and go as hormones ebb and flow and your body changes and adjusts.

Hi @TooMuchCheesecake

Totally understand your anxiety about scans as I'm awful in the lead up to them. Sorry to hear about the sonographer at your 12w scan too, in my experience they've said 'Don't worry if I go quiet while I try to find them...' but once they have they've started a commentary to talk through everything, so I think you've been very unlucky and it's unlikely you'll have to sit through such a long silence again.

I've also been taking aspirin for low papp a since 12 weeks and I've just had my 20w scan where all was well. I know it's worrying but there's a thread on here of others who have had low papp a and healthy pregnancies and I can find a link if you've not seen it?

I wouldn't worry about flutters either, I had nothing here until 19 weeks and they're still pretty sporadic.

Best of luck for tomorrow, sure all will be well x

I convinced myself something was wrong before the 16th weeks midwife appoitement. My breast stopped being sore a few days before, my nausea dissapeared. The baby had a strong heartbeat and on the privet scan we also found out the sex 🙂 I'm 30 weeks now and still worried all the time after my mmc in last November. It will get easier when you start to feel the kicks soon and your bump start to grow!
Good luck !

Thank you for the replies, you have all made me feel a bit less anxious. I'm hoping that all goes well at the scan tomorrow and then I will feel better about things, but I already know that even if everything is fine tomorrow a couple of days later I will start worrying about what will show up on the 20 week scan.

I have an appointment with my midwife next week and will definitely be mentioning my anxiety to her as I can feel it getting worse as the days go by.

I know I will worry less once I can feel baby move but not expecting to feel anything for a while yet as I have an anterior placenta unfortunately!

@JuneySunshine I will have a search and see if I can find the thread about low Papp-a, thank you

Sending love and sympathy 💐
I’m 17 weeks with 4 previous miscarriages so the anxiety you’re describing is very familiar to me. After my 12week I got (horribly) nervous and had an extra scan at 14 weeks so you’ve held out better than me, OP! All I will say is that my symptoms such as nausea also disappeared after first trimester - I think that’s normal. I also wouldn’t expect to feel flutters yet (annoying as it would be reassuring!)
Basically, be kind to yourself and I hope the scan shows a happy wriggly baby - let us know x

Just to update, the scan today went really well! I told the lady that I was anxious and she was so good, playing baby's heartbeat to me straight away. After that she showed me all parts and told me everything looked perfect. And we found out we are having a baby girl

Right now I am feeling very happy and reassured and I'm going to really try to relax and enjoy my pregnancy now.

Thank you all for your support and reassuring comments.

Aww this is great news! So glad to hear it all went well and how exciting finding out the gender too. I was the same, I had a 16 week scan for extra reassurance.

Congratulations @TooMuchCheesecake lovely news!

So so happy and relieved for you. Congratulations!