Is it wrong of me to not want any visitors after I give birth

[casey19]

Hello just looking for some honest opinions please. I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant with my second child and I've decided this time round that I don't want any visitors at the hospital after I give birth I want a few days to really connect with my baby as I'm going to be breast feeding this time and I didn't last time I bottle fed my first son. The first time I give birth was at 4.30 in the morning and my partners mum and dad were at the hospital for 7am taking pictures of us all and I found that really hard I just wanted to hold my baby and sleep, my partners mum works as a nurse at the hospital so I feel it will be impossible to keep her away as last time she kept coming into the room and taking the baby off me ( I know she wasn't doing out of any bad will, she was just excited) but I really wanted to be on my own with my son. I don't have a great relationship with my mum and my dad has young children and works full time so the only people to watch my son while I'm giving birth would be my partners parents ( I would never expect anyone to watch my son, I would obviously respect it if they said they had other commitments) but I guess my whole point of this post was to ask am I being unreasonable asking my partners parents to watch my son but not come to the hospital after I give birth? ( my family will not be coming to hospital either ) I feel awful feeling this way but I just want to feel comfortable breast feeding my baby without people looking at me. Please anyone's opinions are helpful

Surely for relatives that can't wait for a glimpse can be sent a picture via media.

Absolutely your decision. This is not a time for you to be trying to please others, especially when they were so disrespectful to you before. Tell them how it’s going to be and stick to it he plan.

No visitors in hospital is fine but no visitors in the first few days/weeks at home is really unkind to your family.

Why? They'll get to meet the baby; they'll have a good relationship with it. But all the medical advice we've had is to limit the contacts, both because of Covid, and because baby will be overwhelmed; it's easier to read cues, better for establishing breastfeeding, makes baby feel more secure because they are only learning a few faces...

And the new mum is likely bleeding, and uncomfortable, and learning how to parent a newborn. I'd say the unkind thing would be to be expecting to go over and meet the baby in those circumstances, rather than not allowing it.

@Mummypig1234 That was our plan; but sadly, it's not allowed at the moment 🙈

@yomommasmomma

No visitors in hospital is fine but no visitors in the first few days/weeks at home is really unkind to your family.

It’s not as if the baby is going to degrade in value.