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Due in March - do you think they’ll ‘lockdown’ hospital again?

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MyMabel · 24/10/2021 12:14

Although it could be sensible so pregnant women aren’t at more risk; I’m so scared they’re going to go back to the ‘no pettier allowed until the last second then leave straight after birth” kind of rule.

I had complications with first DD and have never laboured as had a c section, I know if I needed another c section that I would need DP there for support not just physically but mentally as it wrecked my mental health last time. If I can labour and birth naturally I’m going to be so scared to do it alone. I have really and health anxiety and always think the worst things will happen to me.

What are the chances hospital restrict this again?Sad

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AllSinging · 24/10/2021 16:14

There’s honestly no way of knowing at the moment so there’s no point in worrying about it. I’m due at the beginning of February so of course have similar concerns (I’m a FTM) but have decided that there is nothing I can do about it, no one has the answer so why waste my energy stressing about it x

FelicityBob · 24/10/2021 16:15

Hospitals never made women be alone til right at the last minute. Partners are allowed in for labour, always have been

JackieCollinshasnoauthority · 24/10/2021 16:20

Our health board moved back to no visitors in September so partners are only allowed to be with you in active labour. It's appalling that hospitals have to take such measures while people outside carry on as normal, putting case rates up.

FelicityBob · 24/10/2021 16:23

The general population have a high rate of vaccination . Pregnant women , where I am, are largely unvaccinated. There should not be wards full of visitors putting pregnant women and babies at risk

Holskey · 24/10/2021 16:37

@FelicityBob

Hospitals never made women be alone til right at the last minute. Partners are allowed in for labour, always have been
I gave birth June 2020 and partners were allowed in during later stages of labour only, and for some women that goes very quickly. Not everyone had their partner there in time, though the majority did.

Then partners weren't allowed to visit, no matter how long you were in for. The upside was I wasn't being disturbed by everyone else's gran/cousins/neighbour traipsing in whilst I was trying to establish breastfeeding, but it was horrible my partner not being able to see his ds for the first several days of his life.

I'm newly pregnant and hoping it will be different next time for partners. But I'd still like to see limited visiting from relatives and friends etc, even if Covid magically disappears. Maybe that's selfish, I don't know.

babyboybluex · 24/10/2021 17:31

I agree @Holskey. I also give birth in June 2020 and now 11 weeks pregnant with baby number two - it was hard having a night without DP but I was so grateful for the lack of visitors and able to fully focus on breastfeeding/recovery.

One main thing that I hope is different is my DP being able to come in straight away and not have to wait for an examination to determine active labour. My DP had to wait outside in the rain for an hour and a half until I was checked 😥

dg93 · 24/10/2021 21:18

This is something I'm so scared about! I'm due in Feb and I'm almost certain the rules will change by then, as cases are absolutely insane right now.

Just got to keep positive and know that whatever happens you'll come out of this with your little baby, and it will be the happiest day of your life.. well, that's what I keep telling myself when I start to panic 😱😭😂

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MyMabel · 24/10/2021 21:58

@FelicityBob I get that, that’s why I said it’s probably sensible.

But the selfish in me can’t help but think; it’s unfair that I can’t have DP with me (both double vaxxed) because of the choice of other women on the ward. Surely that’s the risk they are taking.. not me/us? The vaccine is there to protect; if you decline it aware of the possible consequences then it seems a bit unfair for their choice to negatively impact others who are fully vaccinated so we don’t have to worry about that exact thing.

But I also get that the above is a quite selfish way to think. I’m just so scared to be alone with no familiar face when labour starts, and to be in hospital alone with my baby until we can leave.

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sarah13xx · 24/10/2021 23:04

My hospital have already restricted all visitors due to high cases here. The only exception this time is the maternity unit where you’re still allowed your partner! My hospital had stricter rules than most when I had my c-section in the summer. My partner was fine to hang about for hours on end as we waited to go in for the planned section but it was as if someone was starting a stopwatch when the baby arrived and he had to leave asap. No idea why the rules are like that! He was allowed to stay until I left recovery then had to sit in the car until they arranged him an hours visiting slot on the ward. He wasn’t allowed back in the next morning. Everyone else wasn’t even allowed their partner to collect them from the ward, they had to meet them with the baby at the front door. I was the only person in my ward not feeling good the next day so they ended up arranging me a visit because I had to stay longer

Holskey · 25/10/2021 00:00

Back in June 2020, a lady in my room arranged for her partner to bring some clothes for their baby (they had to stay longer than expected whilst ruling out meningitis). They wouldn't allow her to go to the door to get it from him or even see him. She was in floods of tears. I don't think it's right at all not to allow partners. Some risks are worth taking.

Derbee · 25/10/2021 00:21

I’m also due in March. If they lockdown maternity wards purely because of the number of unvaccinated pregnant women, I’ll be pissed off. My partner and I are double jabbed, and anyone who chooses not to have the vaccine should do it at their own risk, not everyone else’s inconvenience

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MyMabel · 25/10/2021 04:56

@Derbee I completely agree!

@sarah13xx that’s awful- I had a c section December 2019 and I felt so groggy and could barely stand up straight afterwards. I needed to hold on to DP to get back to the car park and into the car - I felt so light and dizzy I have no idea how I’d manage to carry baby and trust myself not to fall on my way out after that.

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sarah13xx · 25/10/2021 08:11

@MyMabel that’s what happened to me. I felt fine then all of a sudden felt so dizzy and warm. I don’t know if it was a reaction to the medication or just from losing blood maybe. I ended up being sick in the toilet then went back to bed, got so dizzy I couldn’t stand to get back to the toilets and I was shouting for a sick bowl 😂 they weren’t quick enough and I was sick all down my top I had on for going home 🙈 very much a low point of my life shouting through a curtain that I was going to be sick and couldn’t move 😂

Samanabanana · 25/10/2021 08:27

I recently had a planned section. DH was allowed to check in with me, came with me to theatre and stayed about 5 hours post birth. He left because he had to pick up DC1 rather than being asked to leave. He visited for an hour the next day, and collected me from the ward door the day after that. The midwives were brilliant and so supportive. No one will expect you to carry your baby or bags the day after a section. Someone will be there to help if we're still in restrictions. I hope we're not though as it is rubbish not being able to have your partner with you as much as you normally would Flowers

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