Anxiety in pregnancy

[hellsbells323]

This is my second pregnancy and I'm feeling so much more anxious this time. Possibly because I'm older and more aware of the things that can go wrong whereas with my first I was quite naive.

I'm 14 weeks and had a healthy 12 week scan a few weeks go. However I can't shake off the feeling that something might go wrong before the next one. I know of at least three people who have had normal 12 week scans then been told at their 20 week scan that something has gone wrong. I'm so terrified of this happening to me.

Realistically I know there's nothing I can do to to control this other than look after myself as best I can. I also know the worry won't be helping but I can't help it. Has anyone else experienced this?

@hellsbells323
I'm exactly the same, this is my 4th pregnancy. 1 DS, 1 MMC 1 MC and now I'm 15 weeks. I had a great 12 week scan but then got the dreaded call saying there was a problem with my bloods
I had the harmony test done and thankfully low risk of downs edwards and pataus. But I still can't shake the anxiety.

I've got a private scan booked tomorrow and so nervous I can't sleep just can't shake the feeling it'll all go wrong again.

Sorry not helpful or reassuring but just saying your not alone. Hand hold. X

@anothermonthbitesthedust I hope your scan goes well today. I have been doing a lot of research and it says that 85% of miscarriages happen within weeks 1-12. After you've had a healthy 12 week scan your risk does drop significantly. But I just seem to be seeing a lot of news lately from people who have sadly lost babies after this point and it really scares me.

I don't want to become obsessive with scans (we already paid for an early reassurance private scan) but it feels like the only way to know all is ok.

Do let me know how your scan goes today.

@hellsbells323
Thanks. I'm very nervous, I have been using this calculator which is quite helpful

datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

I just don't feel pregnant, I'm hoping when It starts to move I'll feel better, or the 20 weeks scan!

I always have on my mind one thing when we worry about such things.... You yourself could get hit by a lightning or whatever too , but do you worry everyday if you gonna be ok in 20 weeks? You dont know . So dont worry, chin up and enjoy life this moment xxx

@hellsbells323 I used to get worried about the 20 week scan, but my friend had a still birth on the day of her due date. Normal baby, normal symptoms...

It shows that if anything is to go wrong it's not by a time frame or by a certain week.

Take everyday as it comes

Hi I'm just after some advise I recently found out I'm pregnant I think I'm around 7/8 weeks I had an early scan 2 weeks ago due to spotting/bleeding and cramping but they couldn't see much as I think I was to early, I've got another scan tomorrow to see if they can see more. I'm really worried as from the start I've been suffering with bad nausea, sore breasts, tiredness , bloating and heartburn, I've had a few days this week where I haven't felt as bad is this morning I'm so worried so many people around me have lost babies my anxiety is through the roof at the minute x

@amylou1412 it's quite normal for symptoms to come and go so try not to worry too much about that. Let us know how your scan goes.

[quote hellsbells323]@amylou1412 it's quite normal for symptoms to come and go so try not to worry too much about that. Let us know how your scan goes. [/quote]
Thankyou for that I will let you know

@hellsbells323

Had a really lovely private scan yesterday.
The sonography was so nice and reassuring. As I was 15 weeks, and have already had my 12 weeks she said there was no need to do a dating scan. She said it was too early to do a 20 week anomaly scan but she would do as much as she could and let me know if there was anything concerning.

When she spent a lot of time looking at one area. She would tell me why, mainly coz everything is so small it was harder to see

And although it's still too early to say she was 90% sure we're having a little girl.

TBH this is the first scan ( I've had about 5 already this pregnancy)I've walked away from feeling reassured.

@hellsbells323
34 weeks now. How's your pregnancy going?