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Just found out I am pregnant with no2- feeling sad for DD

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Stargazer89 · 21/10/2021 17:35

hi everyone, I have just done a pregnancy test and found out we are expecting baby number 2. We weren’t exactly trying but it’s not a shock as we haven’t been that careful. I feel so emotional about our DD who is 15months because she’s our world. Is it normal to feel this way?

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KeyErro · 21/10/2021 17:58

Congratulations!
I remember feeling the same, like we'd let DD down somehow but it was absolutely fine.
She's so young that in no time at all she won't remember when it was just her, and will (hopefully) enjoy having a sibling.

MakingTheBestOfIt · 21/10/2021 18:15

Aw bless you. Yes, very normal. Mine are both teens now and adore each other.

Congratulations

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Stargazer89 · 21/10/2021 18:42

Thank you both. Makes me feel bit better 😊

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lilyfire · 21/10/2021 18:49

Totally felt like was betraying ds1 when found out was pregnant with ds2. Ds1 now 18 and doesn’t seem to have been scarred by it.

CherryLeaf · 21/10/2021 19:08

I felt the same when I fell pregnant with dc2. I felt that my love for dc1 was like having a cake.. and having another child would mean a portion of cake/love would be taken and that meant Dc1 would get less and lose out!
What I didn’t realise was that as soon as a saw dc2 it was like getting a whole new additional cake! There wasn’t less for anyone at all, there was much much more! Cake all round! Crazy analogy but it made sense to me!

TillyDevon · 21/10/2021 19:12

I felt like that but honestly it’s given DD the world as she and DS have shared their whole childhood together and had so many adventures and games that have been more special for being together .
We now have a surprise 3rd due over 10 years on and I’m slightly terrified of rocking their boat again but last time it was definitely the biggest joy! I hope will be again .

Lynne1Cat · 21/10/2021 19:13

I remember feeling exactly the same when I was pregnant the 2nd time. My 1st son was 2yrs 8months when 2nd son was born. They fought like mad during their teens, but other than that, they were fine.

They are now 40 and 37! And out together this evening for a few beers!

GroggyLegs · 21/10/2021 19:14

Oh gosh yes, totally normal!
And I thought I'd ruined DS1 life when his brother arrived.

Turns out it was the best gift I could ever give him.
Congratulations!

Sunshine1235 · 21/10/2021 19:15

I didn’t feel like that during pregnancy but did when my 2nd son was born (just to warn you). I felt overwhelmed with guilt and feeling like I didn’t want to give all my attention to this little stranger baby but wanted to look after my real baby (my eldest) who I knew. But that feeling passed very quickly and they are the best of friends and being so much joy to mine and each other’s lives

jamsandwich1 · 21/10/2021 19:16

Congratulations! I felt the same and we were actively trying. Same age gap as you. When DD was born I also thought I’d ruined DS’ life forever and cried A LOT. One year on, all is well.

NeverTheHootenanny · 21/10/2021 19:18

Yes, I felt just like that during my pregnancy. DS was born last week, DD is 27 months so a similar age gap to yours.
I did have a little cry after putting her to bed just after he was born, I think it really just hit me how she isn’t a baby anymore. She’s been totally unfazed though and adores her little brother already.

Babymamma192 · 21/10/2021 19:22

I felt the same but my dd was only 7 months old when I found out we were having dd2! Dd2 is 17 months old now and they love each other to bits!

Every morning when they wake up they ask for each other and they always have each other to play with.

Your 2nd baby will just kinda slot in to your routine and it will all be easier than you think it's going to be...it definitely was for us.

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Stargazer89 · 21/10/2021 19:43

Thank you so much for all of your replies and for sharing your experiences. Seems like it’s something most of us go through but so pleased that it’s all worked out for everyone x

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TopTabby · 21/10/2021 20:02

Ahhh yes, it's normal. I remember crying on the way home from a holiday when I was expecting dd2 because dd1 would be too young to remember it just being her.
Your emotions will be all over the place, I knew I'd love my new baby but obviously not as much as I loved dd1!
Of course dd2 came along & I loved her every bit as much. It's so lovely having siblings close in age as well. Mine are 18 & 20 now but I still remember feeling emotional back then.
Good luck with your pregnancy.

fallhappy1 · 21/10/2021 20:11

I felt like this when I fell pregnant with ds2 when ds1 was only 7 months old. I was afraid that ds1 would be left out or neglected but it was never the case. Ds1 and 2 are 10 and 9 now and they're the best of friends.

WeRTheOnesWeHaveBeenWaitingFor · 21/10/2021 20:15

I was sad for the new baby because I thought there is no way I’d love them as much as my PFB. Turns out I did and it was all okay.

KeyErro · 24/10/2021 21:01

@Stargazer89 are you doing ok?

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