Nub theory - feel terrible to say but I’m desperate for a boy

[BecStar123]

Went for 12 week scan (thought it was a 6 week early scan - baby further than we thought) was sure boy no morning sickness at all and could swear I sore something between the legs. Had my 12 week scan at 14 weeks I couldn’t see much between the legs this time but sonographer accidentally said she. I put the scan on multiple nub theory groups and every1 says girl not 1 boy answer.

I have 2 girls and this is my last baby I feel sad that it is probably another girl. I feel terrible that I feel this way. It’s not that I am unhappy I’m having a girl but more that I will never have a boy if that makes sense.

I know all that matters is that it’s healthy but I can’t help how I feel.

Any1 think it could even be a boy! I love the baby so much and will love her unconditionally like my other daughters …

Photos didn’t attach on original post so here they are xx

Did you ask the sonographer? Or check if she’d meant to say she? I can’t read scans at all but ours told us at 13 weeks that she doesn’t normally say so early but that it was unusually clear which it was.
I am sorry you feel so strongly as it sounds hard and hope someone can give advice who relates - I get that it’s a bigger deal to some than others as one of my best friends felt sad not to have a girl but I think it gets easier with time as sure she wouldn’t change her 4th boy for the world

It was my husband who heard her say she so I never mentioned it. I’m more sad for my Dh as he longs for a son I’m coming to terms with it more this morning. We are going to end up with about 8 kids at the current rate 🤣

Yes that's a girl going by nub, congratulations 🥳

Yup very girly nub OP 💕

It can be hard to tell sex that early - most professionals won't give an assessment from a scan before 16 weeks.

Sonographers often use he or she rather than they or (worse!) it, as the latter options are often felt to be dehumanising and/or dismissive. So, the sonographer saying she isn't conclusive.

If you're desperate to know before 16 weeks, then NIPT blood tests are more reliable than nub/skull theories, although they're pricey.

@Scirocco thank you must appreciated for your reply x

Definitely a girl nub

They may well be right but I had all girl guesses on my 12 week scan (was about 13 weeks) and then at 20 week and the additional scans I've had since then they have said boy!

Op the nub theory can be wrong, most guessed girl nub for my second baby and i had a boy! One of the posters even said she was convinced and gets them all right as well and was wrong. You really cant tell, you'll know soon and honestly what ever you have you'll not imagine it any other way. I am a boys Mum and had to get my head around never having a daughter. When the scan confirmed i was having another boy i wouldnt have had it any other way as i had fallen in love with that baby. It was like i had to grieve the daughter i never had if that makes sense, nothing to do with the beutiful baby boy i was having. Now i think maybe that girl i thought about might be destined to be a grandchild in the future years down the line! Might be similar for you but a grandson one day in years to come!

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@Blackmagicqueen thank you so much. That is exactly how I am feeling. It’s not that I’m sad it’s a girl (or probably is a girl as it still might not be) it’s that I might never have a son. It breaks my heart my dh might never have that father and son relationship and I feel like I need to accept that. I love my daughters so much and know this 1 will be no different. It’s not about that and thank you for understanding and validating my feelings. Xxx

I'm so pleased @BecStar123 that i was able to do that a little. Maybe you will have a boy but remember if baby is a girl give yourself permission to feel. Your feelings are perfectly valid and if that means grieving for the ghost of the child you didn't have than so be it. It is so much healthier to feel and let ur out than to keep it bottled up inside. It has no reflection on how you feel about the baby you're having or your love and appreciation for that child. I think what you're feeling is very common. What helped me a little is to tell myself i was having a another boy and if it was a girl than that would be a surprise but very unlikely. Then when the sonographer said 'it's a boy' i wasn't surprised and felt i had bonded already with the baby as a boy. I then had to deal with my feelings for the daughter i would never have and the truth of it is i bet she would have been nothing like the little girl in my head (prob a tom boy and look like dh!)

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@BecStar123 hello what was the gender? X

It does look like a little girly from the scan pictures 📸