Second baby wobbles

[Burtiebojangles]

Recently found out I was pregnant on our first try but this much wanted second baby is now giving me the major wobbles.

I’m shocked at how I feel, we struggled to fall pregnant with DC1, my first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage so I know how lucky we’ve been so far this time around but it’s just knocked me sideways.

I’m doubting that I can love another child as much as my first and scared they will feel pushed out with a new sibling. I’m doubting that I can even go through all this again. I had awful morning sickness until around 30 weeks and the last couple of days it’s really kicked in again which, just as I felt like I may have been getting my head around the situation, it’s brought me crashing back down.

I’m worried about work, I’ve only been there a year so I’m worried I’m now letting them down, plus I didn’t have a great time returning to my old job after mat leave. The anxiety is a lot at the moment.

The funny thing is that all of the above was ironed out in my mind before we even tried. It wasn’t a rushed decision, we were in a good place, it made sense, we both wanted it and were ready. Now it’s happened, I can’t help wondering if it was a mistake.

I’m hoping it’s normal to feel like this and the hormones are just a huge contribution. Please tell me it gets better. 🥲

@Burtiebojangles Congrats on your pregnancy!
I'm currently 36 weeks pregnant with number 2 after trying for 6 months. This baby was very much wanted and planned for, but throughout the pregnancy I have had wobbles. I think you forget about the bad bits and I've certainly found it much more difficult this time. Try to focus on your end goal - another lovely baby and a child you will love just as much as your first. Wobbles are very much normal with any big decision!

Completely normal! I felt very much the same but settled down as the pregnancy went on. It all worked out brilliantly, you'll be fine and it's great seeing the sibling bond grow.

Thank you both so much! It’s a relief to know I’m not the only one. I never expected to feel like this, I think how quickly it happened has be in a bit of shock too.

I always expected the second time around to be less anxious as you’ve done it before, but I think you’re right @Bananapancakes6, you forget all the bad bits haha.

If it helps, I considered baby number 2 a bit of a chore. I was dreading sleepless nights, bleeding nipples, endless breastfeeding, constant nappy changing etc again. Eldest is 4 and life is easy.
But I had number 2 3 weeks ago snd life is fab. Eldest is SO in love. She’s delighted to have a little sister, despite being really non plussed during pregnancy. And I’m so in love. I’m so much more chilled out this time and the newborn phase seems much easier!

I am in the second trimester and feeling a lot of the same worries as you!! Morning sickness was hideous with a toddler but has settled now thankfully. Hopefully it won’t be so bad for you this time.

When I saw the baby on the scan I was so shocked and it really hit me that this is actually happening, I’m going to have another baby. What have I done?! I am most worried about how my DD will cope with having to ‘share’ me, as she is very clingy to me still. I can’t imagine loving anyone as much as I love her, and I’ve had some feelings of resenting this baby (preemptively) for taking me away from DD! I don’t have any answers but thought I should say - you’re absolutely not alone! And posts like ones from @SillyBry help a lot.