Pregnant with second child after 10 months!

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DS is just shy of 10 months, and I’m pregnant. First cycle trying, did not expect it to happen so quickly 😂 so I’m very pleased but still a bit like woah what have we done?!
When this baby is born, DS will be one and a half. Please reassure me I’m not absolutely mad to purposefully have a baby and a 1.5 year old!

If you are, then that also means that I am too!

My youngest was five months old after a CS when this one happened.... I was in complete disbelief and took me a while for it to really sink in!

You will definitely manage it. At least they will be close in age and both at more or less similar nappy stage so all out of the way round about same time. Same as already having baby things so there are a lot of positives... you also won't be used to getting much sleep again so at least you won't be suddenly getting disturbed again all of a sudden!

I always knew I wanted my kids close together which is why we started trying for the 2nd so soon. But now it’s actually a reality it’s pretty daunting!
Were you able to have a vbac? I ask because I had an EMCS and I really want a vbac! But I’m worried they will say no.

I had an early appointment with my consultant this time around and I did say to her that I would definitely prefer to have a VBAC this time and that I wanted to avoid a CS like the plague!

She was supportive of that and so was another consultant. So I'm down as having a VBAC. I did explain to her that I knew that there would be risks involved with a VBAC and also it all depends on baby however I found recovery from a CS absolutely horrendous and really don't want to do that again.

I had been very worried that they would try to go down the CS path so I was surprised - in a good way - that they were fine with my choice. They didn't try to push a CS on me whatsoever at all which was again something I thought they would do.

My midwife seemed a bit hmmm about it but I'm assuming that's due to the short gap between them. She is also fine with it but her initial reaction was that she hadn't expected it!

I did say to the consultant that I'm aware of the risks regarding the scar deciding to open etc so not sure if that helped as they knew I was aware of potential risks etc. It's an extremely small risk and also if you happen to need induced it is also a small risk of it happening but on the whole it's not a big chance at all so would much rather just go for it. Scar has held out and I'm due soon so I'm happy with things.

I'm sure that you should be fine with having a VBAC especially as smaller gap and they didn't have an issue with me at all. I'm also arranged for an early epidural as I had with my son so I'm happy with that! As you can tell, I'm making sure I'm not left in agony this time around! With one of my others by the time they had managed to get an anesthetist to go to the ward I was informed it was apparently too late for one which was not great especially with the equipment sitting right beside me!! Still feeling somewhat bitter about that experience all these years later!!

I know things can vary from hospital to hospital but honestly I would stick with what you want. Your body and your baby and obviously unless serious emergency or a breech baby then there is no reason why you can't. It is major surgery so your choice if you wish to have that or not. I also found bonding easier with VBs too.

Ds1 was 7 months old when I fell pregnant with ds2, wasn't planned but he was very much wanted. First few weeks of ds2 arriving were a bit chaotic but we got into a routine pretty quickly. I don't remember being as tired as I was when ds1 was a newborn, honestly think having ds2 made things easier 😂 plus you'll get all the nappies, feeding, sleepless nights, weaning, potty training out of the way almost at the same time. I really enjoyed it and DC are very good friends and keep each other company.

@Kangaroodance ah that’s really good to know, thank you! Glad your feelings about it are being taken into consideration. I let a lot of things happen that I wasn’t happy with during my first pregnancy and labour because I felt like I didn’t have a say… this time I’m going to be much more vocal and dare I say, demanding. Don’t care if I make a nuisance of myself 😆

@fallhappy1 ah that’s really nice :) i guess 2nd time around even when it’s tiring or stressful, you already know it’s just a phase. Whereas with the first baby you feel like all the bad stuff will last forever.

I was exactly the same before with my two first births. More so my first birth. Now I'm a whole lot more about what I feel is best for myself and baby as otherwise, in my experience, it isn't great at all. I would expect for me to have somewhat of a reputation and an, "Oh no! Not her!" but I'm fine with that as all that matters is baby is fine and that they don't just decide to do things when there is no medical need for it without even asking me first. With my first a midwife just decided to break my waters without asking me and without it being needed and certain other things which was not pleasant but I didn't feel okay with saying anything as I was a lot younger and felt as though they would know best...

Congratulations on your pregnancy and honestly you will do brilliantly. The fact you have been worried says it all also be as demanding as you want/need to be! Assertive is the word haha 😄

@Kangaroodance haha yes assertive that’s the word! 😉