Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Flip

Original poster

To early scan or not?

8 replies

PlantLadyMum · 04/10/2021 11:22

Hiya, I have a little boy (16months) and had an MVA for a MMC 8 weeks ago. I've now found out I'm pregnant again.

With my first I had an early private scan as well as an NHS one (one sided pain). I also had a private scan booked for my second but unfortunately miscarried before my appointment.

My question is should we bother?

It's a lot of money (not in the grand scheme of things, but still expensive) and my doubt is even if it goes well then it's just false hope as I could lose the baby any time, particularly in the first trimester.

On the other hand I wouldn't want to carry the baby around knowing there was no heartbeat.

Thoughts?

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 · 04/10/2021 11:30

Personally I did have an early scan at 7+2 weeks, because I'd had an early miscarriage like you and was feeling very anxious. I was going to wait until 8+ weeks so I made it past the point of my last loss, but had a little spotting so moved it forwards.

I wanted it because after seeing a heartbeat and the baby measuring right, the risk of loss goes down massively. So then I'd be able to relax a little bit before my 12 week scan (that actually didn't happen until 14 weeks because the hospital was so busy). Also I felt I couldn't trust my body to know when something was wrong, and didn't want to wait until my 12 week scan to find out.

It's really tough but for me it was massively worth it for a little peace of mind

CRB92 · 04/10/2021 11:55

Hi all. So Iv been feeling abit strange these last few days had headaches, breakouts, sore heavy breasts. I’m not due my period for 10 days but had a pregnancy test in the cupboard so just thought I’d try. To my suprise it’s positive Iv taken 2 and both positive! This will be my 4th pregnancy I can’t understand why it’s showing up so early! Anyone else experienced this??

babyboybluex · 04/10/2021 11:57

I'd recommend it - had one at 7 weeks in which I was measuring 6+5 weeks but saw that beautiful heartbeat and instantly felt reassured. We had a CP in July and just needed to see something

rosed1008 · 04/10/2021 12:10

I would say don't try and overthink it. I have had a few losses the past year (also have a 2 year old daughter) and i am now 15 weeks and hopefully this one is sticking around.

This pregnancy my husband and I decided not to go for an early scan for the reasons you state in your post and I was doing ok anxiety wise. However at about 7/8 weeks my insensitive sister decided to send me loads of baby scan pics and that threw me into a spiral of anxiety. So i booked one there and then and we went the next day and it thankfully went well. However it didnt really settle my nerves! Pregnancy after loss is damn hard, do whatever you feel comfortable with. My advice would be dont write anything off just go with the flow.

Pamparam · 04/10/2021 14:43

So I had an MMC first time around, stopped growing at 5/6 weeks, found out at 12. Next time I had a scan at 7 weeks, figuring I’d rather find out quicker - all was fine then, and all was fine the rest of pregnancy. Then I got pregnant again, had a scan at 8 weeks, all perfectly measuring, heartbeat etc. Great! I thought. Then at 12 weeks… found MMC at 9 weeks. I’m pregnant AGAIN and I’m not going to bother now. Since i unfortunately discovered for my self that it can happen any time, I think it’s both false hope and a waste of £££s.

I wish you luck!

sarah13xx · 04/10/2021 15:02

I struggled to wait to the early scan, never mind the 12 week one and I knew the risk was there was no heartbeat and it could just be because it was too early to tell but I think if I was to have another baby I’d end up having an early one again. I’m just too impatient 🙈

shivawn · 05/10/2021 08:32

I had a private one right before the 11 week mark but that was only because my husband wouldn't have been allowed to attend the 12 week scan and I wanted us to see the baby for the first time together. I found that having the ultrasound made things so much more real for us.

I wouldn't personally want one too early because I think it would be much more painful to have a loss after seeing the baby.

Original poster

PlantLadyMum · 05/10/2021 12:01

I've booked one for 8 weeks.

If there's no heartbeat, I'd rather know early and if I do miscarry between then and 12 weeks I'll have my scan photo to keep.

With my MMC I was lucky to get an NHS scan photo of what looks like a blob at 6 weeks, I do still look at it

OP posts:

Flip