Not feeling pregnant, cannot enjoy pregnancy

[Waterb0ttle]

Hi, I'm 14 weeks pregnant tomorrow, and just having a hard time at the moment I don't feel pregnant, my symptoms have near enough gone. I know the placenta takes over around this time which probably why I'm overthinking all this.

I'm not sure if this in normal or not, still getting the odd cramps or twinge but since my 12week scan I just haven't been able to enjoy my pregnancy because I'm worried.

I guess I'm just wondering if anybody else is feeling/felt this way? And what did you do/are doing to stop feeling this down.

You’re just into your second trimester now, which is generally known to be the easiest of all 3. There’s no need to worry at all! You’ve got a good few months to enjoy this before the aches and pains come 😅

Yep, I found 14-23 weeks dullsville. No bump, no movements. Around 24 weeks it started to feel real once I could feel the baby moving and DH could feel.

The only thing that got me through were the monthly scans!

Yeah agree with you both, I've read that second tri is the best for most people, my husband keeps saying let's go for a scan to make me feel pregnant but how many scans can I have really, he's mentioned a doppler this week to! All the way through my first tri I thought I couldn't wait for my symptoms to disappear now I want them back more then ever how silly is that 😞

I was very very unsymptomatic for my first pregnancy and most of my second and honestly I was just glad of that. No morning sickness, no pressure of my bladder, no musicle pains - movement started being noticable from about 14 weeks onwards

I am 21 weeks now but here are some things that made it a bit more exciting:
Making a list of names
Buying some secondhand maternity clothes (as you’ll need them soon!)
Joining a prenatal yoga class and making mum friends.
Reading pregnancy books from library
Making a shopping list and keeping an eye on FB marketplace for baby bargains!
Actually cooking with vegetables to make up for the first trimester and storing extra in freezer for the future weeks.
I started to feel my baby’s movements around 16 weeks so that’s exciting.

I had a really similiar period up until about 24/25 weeks when movement became obvious and bump became bigger.

I’m 27 weeks now and unmistakably pregnant! It makes a huge difference when movements become stronger etc. Try not to worry it’s honestly just so normal.

I have the pressure still in my bladder only when I roll on my belly keeps waking me up on a night

The baby name idea is really good I like that

I guess I'll just have to wait it out like everyone else, I have along as no bleeding I think ill be fine, just hate waiting, is it easy to find a heartbeat with a doppler machine

Doppler machines are really not recommended especially when the baby is still so small. Apparently they cause a number of issues such as sending people into a panic when they can't find a heartbeat. A lot of the time it's just because the baby is small it's hard to find. Or even worse people have not gone to hospital when they needed to because think they have found the babies heartbeat when they have actually picked up their own.

If you do feel anxious which I understand. I had terrible sickness until I was 12 weeks and when it stopped I was worried to. A lot of people do go for a scan to find out the gender at 16 weeks. Whether or not you want to find out the gender why don't you go for a scan then? Then you only have 4 weeks until your 20 week scan. After that depending on where your placenta is you might start to feel the baby a few weeks after.

Congratulations OP

Yeah I've been reading about them doppler tonight they have some mixed reviews some very worrying one too, I don't think Im going to get one. I feel alot better now my belly has gone hard again which when I wrote this it was soft I've spoken to midwife she doesn't seem to think anything is wrong but she's given me a few thing to keep my eye on incase anything is to happen, had a nice soak in the bath and laid on sofa with husband feeling better about it all, thank you ladies

Hi @Waterb0ttle congratulations on your pregnancy sorry you’re having a hard time! Just wanted to say you’re not alone. I’m 16 weeks and have been feeling this too since around week 14 when symptoms disappeared. I guess most people like this period because of the lack of symptoms but for anxious minds it just gives us more to worry about 😅

Do you have a good support network around you? We’ve booked a gender scan for next week time to break up the period until the 20 week scan. Have you thought about a private scan?

Hiya,

I'm a bit behind you as I'm 12 weeks tommorow and my scan is this week.
I'm excited but full of nerves.

I felt really sick some mornings but never was and it was gone by lunchtime. And I just had to eat something and I was okay anyway. That's all stopped.
I was really tired right at the start but I'm just normally tired now.
I get up at night to wee a lot anyway.

My belly looks bigger but in a bloated way like I've put on weight (although I haven't).
I've actually lost a couple of pounds which is bizarre as I've eaten more and not been sick.
So I feel fine.
I'm so nervous for this week that they will tell me bad news as I just feel fine and so it doesn't feel real?

I think when movements starts it must feel more real x

Hi, I had an early scan at 9 weeks privately just for me to believe it really.... I am looking into getting an early gender reveal but I don't know if I want to find out. I have a great friends and family which are all telling me this is normal and everybody feels this way etc.

Good luck for your scan I was similar, morning sickness feeling just in morning by the time I'd eaten it was gone, not tired etc.... Yeah maybe when the movements start I can settle down and enjoy myself a bit more

By the time you’re 40 weeks pregnant, swollen limbs, anaemic with PGP and SPD. Not being able to move with hormones rushing around inside making you think irrational things you’ll look back on this and think arghhh I wish I didn’t ‘feel pregnant’ anymore.

This is the best bit, aside from actually having your baby😃, promise.

I wouldn’t get a doppler - they can cause more worry than they are worth. When I was 24 weeks, a midwife couldn’t find my baby with one and there was a minor panic till she managed it. If the professionals can find it difficult then it’s probably not worth the stress.

I went for a scan just after 16 weeks - that helped bridge the gap between 12-20 weeks and you can find out the sex of the baby too then if that would help you bond?

Good luck! There’s a lot of worry but do try to embrace and enjoy it as much as you can. I’d had four miscarriages around the 10-11 week mark before finally having my two DC, and it took me a while to find the joy in pregnancy as a result.

I think that Tri 2 tends to be the easiest physically for most people but I'd say it's also a bit boring! I've been lucky so far with well pregnancies and I think it just feels like something should be happening but isn't really. A lot of waiting around til the 20 week scan feeling normal essentially!!

I think I'd echo the others and try to use that time wisely. Make plans for baby etc. Once your bump starts to show, it will all feel more real too. Don't get a Doppler for the reasons mentioned. Try to relax and know it's all normal. Easier said than done I know.

Enjoy it while you can I say!

Just to say OP please don't panic if you don't feel the baby at weeks gestation people say on here. Every pregnancy is different. I'm 16 weeks and haven't felt anything apart from the pressure you mentioned up thread.

I'm 32 + 5 today, I still don't 'feel' particularly pregnant; then I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror.

The only things different are I'm struggling with feet/socks/shoes and bending - otherwise (apart from the tiredness) feel 'normal'.

I had my baby 3 weeks ago but I felt the same throughout my pregnancy. Took ages to see a bump, after 14 weeks had no symptoms. Only had 3 scans in total but at least you get to hear the HB at appointments. I was advised against a Doppler and I'm glad I didn't as think it would of stressed me out.
I have to say I was bored through all my pregnancy and really miserable the final few weeks. I turned my phone off on my due date so people didn't keep asking for news, didn't actually turn it back on for 3 days after the birth as had to stay in hospital. The final few weeks I was so uncomfortable and barely slept!
So nothing to help make you feel better I'm afraid just wanted you to know I think it's normal for some!

I know it can be worrying as you mentioned a lack of symptoms but everyone’s different - for me I’m really jealous you feel ok 😂. Probably doesn’t feel like it as you want them but I would try and just enjoy your time pre baby :) As someone else said there are things you can do to put your mind at ease and help you get excited; baby books, starting to buy little bits also I think your husbands idea of a scan is really nice. I wish I had this problem I’m 17 weeks & feel awful - even a 30 minute walk now and I’m uncomfortable already the next few months are gonna be hell so I’m definitely not enjoying my pregnancy but for opposite reasons. Also even with symptoms I have days I worry if that helps!

Maybe make some nice plans with your OH and with friends, things that’ll distract you and won’t be as easy once baby comes - I think feeling pregnant will come soon enough. Good luck!

Totally agree no doppler for me, my husband managed to convince me not to bother I think he knows I'll be on it constantly, he's booked us a weekend away in a few weeks time so I have something to look forward too 😁. I've been looking at baby clothes and nursery colours etc today, we've actually popped into town and bought an outfit so thats hanging lovely in my bedroom at the minute so I see it everytime I walk in the door. He organised my dresser in the way I announced my pregnancy that made me feel so loved and greatful. I can't get over how over attentive he's been at the minute I think he wants me to feel safe and healthy at the moment which is nice. We are looking into an early gender scan but unsure about finding out what we are having lol. I'm feeling alot better today got a hard belly and a little bump which we notice but I think to others might think I've put weight on which I don't mind. When we go to bed he says night to me and the bump and the same when we wake up in the morning he's making me feel pregnant and I love that!

Hmm the fact that I had almost no pregnancy symptoms is the exact reason that I was able to enjoy my pregnancy so much! I'm 40 weeks now and my only symptoms are the babies movements, the bump and the fact that I'm less fit than usual. I never had your anxiety though being a neverending optimist!

Symptoms are so meaningless, I'd really try not to get too focused on them or the lack thereof. Don't be wishing sickness and discomfort on yourself!

I will probably look back on this thread and wonder what I was thinking lol... I have an appointment with my midwife in 2weeks time so I can also focus on that 😁