Not telling anyone about pregnancy till 12 weeks- will it be possible?

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My husband and I have just found out we are expecting out 2nd baby (about 5 weeks)

With my 1st I didn't really show till about 4 months and you could only tell if I was wearing tight clothing .

I'm aware you tend to show earlier with the 2nd

We have told me parents about my pregnancy but do to personal circumstances we have deicide we won't be telling anyone else including my husband family until the 12 week scan

Will it be possible to conceal the pregnancy till then ? The weather is getting colder therefore I'll be able to wear jumpers and cardigans etc but do you think that will be enough? I'm quite slim so not sure hiw possible this will be?!

Yes, of course it is
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99% of people won't even notice when you're 6 months.

People aren't as interested in us as we think they are...

And anyway, of those that might suspect, very few will ask you anyway, and those that do, you can say "no".

Congratulations!

How often do you see the people you wish to hide the pregnancy from? If it's not often I think you can layer up, sit at certain angles etc and you'll be grand. Although you show earlier with your second, I don't think at 12 weeks you'll be too big, try not to worry. Most people keep it quiet until at least 12 weeks if not 20!

In my experience as long as you aren't in a situation where you might be expected to drink no one will notice. (Or you bump into them at the midwives office!)

Yes, will be fine! Even if you look a bit rounder people can only speculate until you tell them.

Probably be able to. I tried with DC2 but then fainted at work at 8wks and so had to tell the ambulance team I was pregnant....with my boss standing there. Wasn’t my best moment.

I'm not long after having my third. I managed to keep it from the people I work with/for. Well they acted genuinely shocked when I told them but I have no idea how they didn't know. I looked fucking awful (HG) I piled on the weight very quickly and had a bump buy 8 weeks (well bloating), so jts possible.

I'm 20wks and haven't told anyone except my mum yet. No one has suspected so far.
I'm a lot bigger second time so a lot more noticeable.

As a PP said, people aren't as interested as you think they are.

With my first, I didn't tell my colleagues until a couple of weeks before I went on maternity leave. None of them had noticed.

Thank you all for your comments 😊😊 really I would like to keep it private for as long as possible! But the 12 week mark would be great at the least

We didn’t tell a soul till 13/14 weeks. I didn’t have any pregnancy symptoms and I’m not really a drinker anyway so it was quite easy. I loved that time, it was like we were in a little bubble with our lovely secret together.

I'm nearly 17 weeks and definitely look pregnant when wearing normal clothes (I know this is true because people e.g neighbours notice and comment) but in baggy clothes I can hide it really well. And I'm the kind of person who gets big in pregnancy! You'll be fine op. The baby is around the size of a lemon at the dating scan.

Oh, and I had a colleague who must have been off the week when I told people and didn’t realise until I was about 7 months pregnant. He said he’d only seen me sitting down.

I didn't start showing with my 2nd until
around 5-6 months; that was January / February .... Up until then I just wore jumpers, leggings and loungewear - granted we was in lockdown last winter - but was still posting on SM and saw people at school gates etc and nobody said anything and everyone seemed genuinely shocked when they found out I was expecting

I'm older than you. Going back, at least 12 weeks, if not longer was more often than not the case. In fact we didn't always know until then.

I was actually 20 weeks when I realised I was pregnant!

I hid my 3rd pregnancy until 20 weeks! Previous loss after 12 weeks so didn’t want to share until I’d had the scan 20 week scan. My boss was utterly shocked (and very happy for me) just a few strategic items of clothing and it’s fine

Definitely! I was 3 months in the April. No one noticed until I was 4 months plus!

We didn’t tell anyone until 12 weeks and it was immediate family - parents and sisters. I didn’t tell friends/colleagues etc until maybe 18-20 weeks, it felt obvious then

It’s one of those things that seems to obvious to you that you might as well be wearing a sign but no one else has probably noticed and if they have they aren’t going to call you out on it at the risk of being wrong!

Just has our third, didn't tell anyone until 22/24 weeks at the earliest. But it entirely depends on your body, my friend was 15 weeks with her third at the same time and had a much more noticeable bump than me.

Yeah easily with the right clothes

I hid mine (now 18 weeks) til I was 15 weeks from work!

I was just under 30 weeks when we told anyone about DC2.

I had an early scan at 10 weeks and told people then. Despite me fainting numerous times at work and generally feeling unwell, nobody suspected and everyone was shocked when I said. Apparently when I had fainted they put it down to me not eating properly (I'm quite slim) or they thought that I was hungover!

I’m in the same boat and i don’t know how I’ll get away with it at social functions as people would notice immediately if I wasn’t drinking 😂

I told my parents at 12 weeks. I had to have an amniocentesis, so wanted to keep it quiet until I knew if I was continuing with the pregnancy. I got the all clear at 20 weeks and told my children then. I didn't tell anyone else and then someone spotted the bump at 21 weeks so I knew I couldn't hide it any longer. It had started out as a twin pregnancy and I thought I was huge, but nobody noticed.

We told parents when we first found out and then told close family after the 12 week scan. Friends were told just after the 20 week scan.