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Can I make it through the next 36 days to maternity leave?

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ActonBell · 02/10/2021 17:30

3rd pregnancy (my 2nd was ectopic). I’ve been at high risk of preterm birth throughout and was having weekly hospital appointments until 23 weeks. Emergency stitch at 17 weeks. But I’ve made it to 29 weeks.

Going on maternity leave at 36 weeks but using 2 weeks holiday as well so I can finish at 34 weeks.

I’ve been feeling super guilty as this seems really early, especially as I didn’t take any leave until 38 weeks with my first. But now I’m struggling to cope, even though I’m working from home, and still have 5 weeks to go.

I have some pelvic pain that makes moving around and sitting at my desk too much difficult. It’s not really bad pgp but it is a struggle. I’m now getting daily headaches (blood pressure checked and it’s fine). I’m exhausted all the time and feel really stressed and low.

I can make it through though can’t I? It’s only 36 days to go. I really want to just get through it rather than have to take sick leave. I hate dealing with the GP and HR and maybe I can manage if I just try to chill out a bit.

I don’t know what I’m asking really. Any tips for making the next few weeks a bit easier?

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Dipsydoodlenoodle · 04/10/2021 15:31

I feel I could have written your post. I'm in the same situation (except after today, I have 12 working days left). Not really sure what to suggest; but I made myself a little countdown so that at least it doesn't seem so bad...

Evianontoast · 04/10/2021 16:30

Hi. I feel very similar, 42 days until mat/annual leave start, when I'll be 33 weeks. Have a rotten cold this week that husband has brought home and I just wish I was on maternity leave already.

Firstly, don't feel guilty! You don't have to prove anything to anyone and only you know what's right for you.

I also agree with @Dipsydoodlenoodle above, I also have a count down timer on my phone which really keeps me going. I'm also focusing on other things I'm looking forward to (husband's birthday next week when we'll go out for dinner, trip out the following week etc.) so that I'm only really waiting about a week for an event that'll make me feel a little more normal and human. Focusing on just the maternity leave point would make me feel hopeless too! Perhaps scribble on a calendar a few things you're looking forward to in the coming weeks and just focus on getting to those things? Before you know it, the next thing will be mat leave.

Other than that, remember that this isn't forever - only for now.

marykitty · 04/10/2021 16:40

Still 3 weeks to go, I am 36 weeks and I will go in mat. leave at 39 weeks. Until 1 week ago I was still fine, now my back/right leg hurt like crazy and I am Kind of K.O. between work and my toddler.
I honestly try NOT TO count the days. I am just taking it day by day, without focusing on "how long still". I survive my 8 hours, and it's another day in the books.

I feel your pain though Flowers

Amijustagrump · 04/10/2021 17:17

I have 46 working days left and I honestly can't wait, I'm so tired and work is exhausting me!

Hippomumma · 04/10/2021 19:37

5 weeks left for me and I feel your pain! I’m finishing up at 36 weeks but could happily just throw in the towel now if I could get away with it! My coccyx is so painful sitting at a computer all day and I just find myself sitting rubbing bump, daydreaming, most of the time now!

All the best over the next few weeks! You can do it!

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