Freaking out

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mum2bejan · 07/12/2007 09:59

I know this sounds silly, and I tell myself I'm being silly, but as the birth gets closer and closer I keep stressing out about everything. I worry that the baby will be ok; have I done all that I can to look after him? I worry that I'm just not capable of producing a child with no problems, even though I have no reason for thinking any different! Then I go on to worry about the birth, and how the heck I'm going to cope. One day I'm perfectly calm about the whole thing and can reason my way through it all, and then the next day I just can't seem to imagine myself coping at all with the pain and stress of it all. Then I will go on to worry about how good a mother I'm going to be when he's actually here! Sounds really daft doesn't it?Somebody plaes tell me I'm not going crazy!How can you tell this is my first pregnancy!

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derah · 07/12/2007 10:03

Hi there. Oh dear, it really is very stressful isn't it? The very fact that you're worrying about whether or not you'll be a good mother tells me that you will be ! Having a baby is a huge life-changing event that you can't really prepare for, so panic is quite normal. Once you go into labour, you'll just go with the flow and everything will be fine.

The first few weeks with DD were really hard for me as I adjusted to having this little person around who I really didn't know what to do with. But the two of you will learn to understand each other and every day it will get easier and easier.

Freaking out is not silly or unusual, believe me you're not alone. But you'll do fine, really!!

I suggest medicinal chocolate to calm your nerves!

debinaustria · 07/12/2007 10:52

It's not silly at all - I think it's perfectly natural, especially with 1st time Mums and then as 3rd time Mum I'm trying not to think about the birth and coping with new baby again after all this time.

I'm sure you'll be fine and you have lots of advice on hand here if things get tough.

Good luck

caramelchewchew · 07/12/2007 11:45

Mum2bejan - if its any consolation I feel exactly the same! I worry about the birth, worry about whether I will be able to breastfeed, whether I will know what to do in general with a baby in fact! Other days I'm just so excited I can't wait (got 10 weeks to go!)
I think its all pretty normal, so just be easy on yourself and I'm sure you will be a great mum! (Or at least I keep trying to tell myself that anyway!)

Myrtle1 · 07/12/2007 12:39

I think Derah is right, once it starts you'll just go with the flow. Try not to panic but just relax into it.
I found it hard to begin with - had no idea what to do with the little one and spent the whole of the first night thinking please don't wake up and cry cos I have no idea what to do, if you do. I found bf tricky too cos I didn't realise that they have to learn to bf too, so for a couple of days it took a while for DS to get the hang of latching on. This is all normal though and you'll both learn together. Good luck wiyh it all

Kerri28 · 07/12/2007 22:00

Perfectly normal IMO. I worried constantly, kept thinking "life has been good for me so far, something must be wrong with the baby" . had horrendous imaginations, but DD was/is perfect. Try not to get too stressed, and blame the hormones

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mum2bejan · 08/12/2007 16:01

Thanks for the replies. Its good to know I am quite normal after all! Lol

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wobbegong · 08/12/2007 16:04

I totally empathise and it's completely natural I guess. One thing which helped for me was a hypnotherapy CD. It's full of positive subliminal messages about how everything will be wonderful and you will be able to cope. In the past I would have dismissed that as totally cheesy hippy rubbish, but now I'm a big convert. Just sitting and doing the breathing and relaxation exercises on the CD sets my mind more at rest. They have one for pregnancy relaxation and one for birth prep if you're near the end. Worth considering?

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meepingaroundthechristmastree · 08/12/2007 16:06

Not silly at all - I cried nearly every day for the 2 weeks before my DD was born over most of the things that you are worried about! Whatever you do don't watch any of those "baby" progammes on tv - they would have me in floods!
You will get through the birth and have a gorgeous wee baby at the end and will be a very lovely mum

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mum2bejan · 08/12/2007 16:16

I've been thinking about getting a natal hypnobirthing cd for a while, and have just ordered myself a copy. Hopefully over Xmas I can chill out and listen and relax to it. Thanks again.

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