Hi, I am currently 5 weeks pregnant (roughly). I have a recently turned 1 year old from a previous partner. This current pregnancy wasn’t planned, I am on contraception but we got drunk and I forgot to take it, I only missed 1 pill so I’m a little confused how this has happened… he usually pulls out and this one time he didn’t…
The new relationship I am in is perfect, we were friends before and we get along so well. This was a shock to the system for both of us. He has a baby with a previous woman who he wasn’t in a relationship with when their son was conceived - they slept together once. She makes life very hard for him. She makes threats to stop him seeing his son then disguises them with it being a ‘joke’. She agrees to allowing him to look after their son and then says things like ‘or am i going to change my mind?’ She knows a lot about me and I don’t know how, she blocks anyone that is seen with me but I don’t know how she knows this / what I am doing. There’s been times where she knows where my partner is and his whereabouts, she’s turned upto the places he is at. It’s becoming a bit weird and it’s starting to make me uncomfortable that she knows so much about me. She has feelings for him and has done for a long time, their son is 18 months old now. I have nothing to do with her, we’ve kept everything separate to our relationship and the children. All I care about is that my partner sees his son, I would never ever stop that. Now obviously now I am pregnant, and his baby’s mother doesn’t know but she is a large factor on why he is disputing us keeping the baby because she will stop him seeing his son. He is an amazing dad, he brings them anything they need whenever, looks after him overnight will she goes out etc. Pays her car finance etc, he’s not a dad that doesn’t bother. I really don’t want to go ahead with an abortion, I had one years ago and I’m still affected by it to this day, the thought of another one makes me feel physically sick, but I don’t want to risk him not seeing his son because I know how much he loves him. I would never want to put that on someone, but on the other hand I’m admittedly thinking of myself a little. I really need some advice. I’m in a really awful situation and do not want to ruin his life or be the reason he isn’t allowed to see his son anymore.