Recovery from miscarriage

[Busybird123]

Hi , So unfortunately I suffered a miscarriage August 11th, was 8weeks pregnant- first time pregnant after ttc over 2 years :-((( ... I am wondering how long does it take to recover, I stopped bleeding about 1 week after and passed everything naturally , ultrasound scan confirmed everything was clear, I started spotted just over a week ago but now have started cramping and the bleed has got heavier just wondering when this should heal , just would like to get back to myself abit more mentally and physically but cramping and bleeding is making it more challenging to recover really. Any advice greatly appreciated, and any positive stories to help me , i'm absolutely terrified of TTC again and it has really thrown me the whole horrid experience ,

@Busybird123 I was in the exact same boat as you. I'm sorry you've gone through this but I promise you, there's light at the end of the tunnel.

The bleeding typically lasts 3-4weeks, and then your body is back to normal in the sense that your bleeding stops.

Doctors advise to wait one cycle before you try to conceive again, but additionally I'd like to tell you: PLEASE focus on you, and your mental state. Don't listen to any pressure you may receive from others, or feel like you need to hurry up the process of healing.

Healing takes time, and you deserve every bit of it. X

Thank you , when you say the bleeding lasted well mine stopped about a week and half after miscarriage but then nothing for 3 weeks , then started spotting again which has turned into heavy bleeding passing clots and what looks like tissue sorry tmi ! So I'm wondering is this my first period after the loss?

@Busybird123 it's probably your period after birthing it. If you're definitely sure you've passed everything out completely and successfully; then this may be your normal period

Yes had a scan 3 days after loss and showed everything was cleared, thank you . Thank you for your reply, and sorry to hear you've been through a loss too.

Hi. I went through a miscarriage last year so I know how you feel. It’s truly awful but all I can say is it does get easier with time so just try and look after yourself and do little things that bring you joy (it was chocolate and reality tv for me!). I would say that if the scan showed everything had been passed and you had stopped bleeding for a while like you say, then it’s more likely than not that this new bleed is your period. The first period after a miscarriage is often heavier and lasts longer than usual (mine definitely did). You should also do a pregnancy test to make sure it’s negative just for peace of mind so you can start trying again - if that’s what you want to do. It goes without saying that if you’re worried about any bleeding then contact your doctor, but it’s normal for your body to take a few cycles to get back to how it was before.

Hi Lovely,

I had a miscarriage around 8 weeks in Dec last year. I bled for no longer than a week, and had my negative result two weeks after that. I will say that my periods were noticeable heavier after it, which I was told was normal.

We pretty much started TTC the first period I had after my mc in the January. I - like you - was terrified of trying again, but I just thought to myself that I must keep going if it’s what I want. I kept taking my prenatal vitamins, and we just continued as normal. I can’t say that I was mentally ready? I don’t think you ever fully feel ready, but we conceived on my 3rd cycle after mc - and I’m 33 weeks now. Its been a difficult road getting here with my anxiety. I can’t promise that you won’t be a bag of nerves and will symptom spot, I did all of that. But is expected after everything you’ve been through. I’ve had a couple of complications along the way, but even so I’m hoping for my positive outcome.

You will get there lovely. Just be kind to yourself and the moment. Rest, and nourish your body with good food and TLC. Trust that it knows what it’s doing xxx

Thank you all for your lovely comments and support, still going through a horrendous "period" but it sounds like it's something that is expected after a loss , :-/

My first period after my first miscarriage was very heavy so that’s probably what you are experiencing now. I’m very sorry for your loss.

I found once the bleeding stopped I felt much better and we started trying again.

Although I’ll never forget that horrible time, once my body went back to normal I felt surprisingly fine. I still get upset if I talk about or let myself think about that time though sometimes (it was a year ago now and I’m about to have my rainbow baby next week🌈) xxx