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I don't like it anymore...

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BernadetteThreep · 26/09/2021 15:20

Sorry I think it's going to be a long rant...
I'm not enjoying it. I feel like all the joy has been sucked out of this pregnancy.

I have one son who is 9 (with my ex husband). I have a fantastic partner, it took us 14 months to get pregnant. I'm so grateful and happy. I just can't wait to meet her. But...

I'm now 32+2 weeks pregnant. I spend (as most pregnant women do) most of the first trimester with my head down the toilet. So much so I was signed off work. This has returned with a vengeance in my third trimester. Some days I can't keep anything down.

I requested a genetic screening because my partner has a genetic disorder (NF1 - he only suffers mildly, but we wanted to be prepared if she had inherited it). My request got "lost" and was only received by the geneticist at Addenbrooks when I was 28 weeks. So they've said they won't test until birth now, so we have no idea what to expect.

As I've got bigger, my uterus has compressed a nerve in my abdomen. It feels like a toothache down my left side of chest and abdomen.

Baby is small for gestational age. At last scan she was on the 5th centile. So we are currently on track to be induced at around 36/37 weeks. Have next scan on Tuesday and I'm so scared incase she falls off the line.

I was on antidepressants and antipsychotics when I got pregnant, I came off them very early on. I am trying every trick in the book to remain positive...

To top it off this Friday I was diagnosed with having separated abdominal muscles (fantastic).

We've just exchanged contracts for our new property, hopefully will complete Tuesday. I've just been sat on the bed crying because everything just hurts, I don't have the energy to even think about moving. I know how lucky I am to be pregnant. I love her so much. I just want this to be over Sad

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Anon08 · 26/09/2021 17:32

Didn’t want to read and run. Big hugs, I’m not enjoying pregnancy either and am fed up with the aches and pains but your last few sentences are the important ones. You love her! Pregnancy is such a short stage in a much longer life ☺️

summerhillgang · 26/09/2021 17:45

Sending hugs. Sounds like a lot. Can you take mat leave early? Have some time to yourself? X

Derbee · 26/09/2021 17:48

I can’t give you any advice, but I can just say that a lot of pregnancies are fucking miserable.

The main thing is that you’re being monitored for growth, and you’re almost at the end of your pregnancy, and close to meeting your lovely baby.

It will all be worth it when she’s here. I have been diagnosed with HG, hospitalised for IV fluids and am on the max dose of anti sickness meds that I can safely be on. I’m only 14 weeks! Aaarrrrgggghhh. But I keep reminding myself that this will pass, and I will meet my baby.

Sorry that you’re feeling so awful. I hope it helped to vent.

BernadetteThreep · 26/09/2021 18:34

Thank you for your understanding. I am so very grateful to have her, she is so loved and wanted. I just don't want to do it anymore...

It does feel a bit better to be able to say these things. I'm so scared to say them out loud, especially since I have a mental health disorder.

@Derbee that sounds awful! I manged to avoid IV fluids. I'm now on Ondansatron, which is helping, but still vomiting several times a day. I hope it begins to pass soon for you soon, it's just such a horrible feeling.

@summerhillgang - I've given up working. Asked my GP to sign me off, she didn't argue, just handed me a fit note. I love my job, just couldn't manage it anymore.

@Anon08 - thank you! I really do love her. I feel like an awful mother already. But it'll be over in a few more weeks

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