Birth choice/ preference

[Arghlife]

So at the moment I've decided that I want a hospital birth , but I don't want anyone to be with me (except for the midwifes obviously). I want to spend most of my labour at home and then when I need to go I've got people who are happy to drop me off. Everyone seems happy with this except for my cousin. She lives a good 4 hours away and has now said she'll rent somewhere nearby and she'll be at the birth and having her there will reduce my anxiety.
I am single and I'm actually loving the idea of it just being me and my baby.
She says I don't need to push anyone away etc. I get it but I don't feel it's like that. For me it's a very private and personal thing and I'm not 100% relaxed around her anyways.
Am I wrong in thinking that I'll be more relaxed on my own ? I can't imagine having anyone with me.
Has anyone delivered on their own by choice at hospital?

I haven't delivered on my own but if that's what you want then that's what you should do. Don't let anyone bully you into doing anything you don't want or aren't comfortable with.

Let her rent a place close by and if you do change your mind then you can call her in. If you don't, she will be there to support you when you and baby return home x

Your labour your choice.

Tell your midwife nearer the time her name and that you don't want her present at your birth then get it put on your notes.

A birthing partner does make it easier for you though as long as you choose the person wisely. They need to be someone who knows all your birth choices so have gone through "what if" scenarios with you and will be able to advocate for you at all times.

Tell her to bollocks. You do what you want to do.

I think we all cope with pain, stress, hospitals etc differently, and even of you've not given birth before you know how you cope best in difficult situations. There's no one right way - we've all just got to do what suits us. And if you think being alone with midwives would suit you best, go for it! People should support you in the way you want them to.

That sounds absolutely fine to me. Although it’s touching of your cousin to care so much. If you are single then you might be appreciative of her help once the babies born, especially if you have a c-section or other birth injury. Would you both be open to her dropping in once the baby’s born to help you with errands, cooking, cleaning etc?

I know she means well but pushing someone to have you there while they give birth is seriously crossing a line.
I’d tell her it isn’t happening. If she ignored me and rented somewhere nearby I wouldn’t tell her when I went into labour. If she found out anyway, (from the people who drove me etc), I’d tell the midwives to not let her in.

Thank you for the responses. We haven't always had a good relationship and whilst I like her and she means well, she's not someone I want around me when I'm in labour. I'm under no delusion of what I may be like when it's happening and I can't imagine her being there.
I've waited along time for this and I just want it to be me and my son.
The only thing that keeps us talking is the fact that she has a son who's a year old. We started talking and building a relationship when she was heavily pregnant. Before this we hadn't spoken for two years.
With maturity I find that I'm able to bite my tongue when she says something but it isn't easy.
Just finding the words to tell her thanks....but no thanks, without hurting the relationship that we have.